So I don’t go on LinkedIn a lot. But I happened to be on there recently and saw a thing in my inbox. My friend’s son, who’d done my website, had sent a request for a recommendation. I wrote something immediately. (I get things done!) Got this back.
“AuDHD represents a blend of ADHD and autistic traits, leading to unique experiences and challenges. When the underlying needs of ADHD and autism interact, it can feel like a tug of war for the AuDHDer - Do I need routine or spontaneity? Newness or familiarity? Busyness or a steady pace? Though these examples are quite simplistic, they illustrate the internal confusion of the AuDHDer attempting to address their needs.”
Someone said that what a neurodivergent views as CONTEXT,
a neurotypical will usually view as an excuse,
and when I tell y'all this hits me SO HARD 😫
"You're just not working hard enough"
"You're just not paying close enough attention"
"You're just lazy"
"You're just not very thoughtful"
"You're just not respectful of other people's time"
"You're just selfish"
"...SO STOP MAKING EXCUSES!"
And all the while, I'm just trying to provide context on how I got from A to G
@nekohayo Polls are hard. I choose "It would be a serious issue for me" but I think it's a wording that's a bit stronger than I'd choose myself. More like "It would be a real issue for me".
What would happen is that I would constantly lose focus as that URL changed which would trigger me and I'd get angry and annoyed. 😣
@mattiasb Yeah, I think using the world "real" would have caused more confusion than "serious", as anything can be said to be "real" by someone who perceives something, while "serious" is meant to clearly differentiate between an annoyance (still "real") vs something that "disrupts with consequences" levels of severity. i.e. Would it be considered harmful, or annoying, or not at all.
The characters (& choices) limit in polls makes it a bit hard to write things, but I think it's pretty balanced.
@wakehamAMR Well, with AuDHD I can sometimes (=roll a d3) function in times of crisis but then my autism needs some reeaaaal time alone to recharge; or I can work with patterns when I trick my hyperfocus to do it, but my exhaustion afterwards just lets me flop on the bed; or I don't manage anything at all (critical miss) and am a miserable pos laying depressed on the floor shrug
🦋 If you struggle with ADHD or have your focus constantly ruined by a whirlwind of thoughts, then you probably use productivity tools that can help crush those distractions and give you some peace of mind.
Find out how you can say goodbye to those scattered thoughts by customizing the Vivaldi browser to work for your needs and preferences 👇🏻
@beardedtechguy Vivaldi has done a spectacular job just locking me into their browser. I use it for so much I don't even know where I'd begin with a different one. Another example is the Panel. As an admin of an instance, I spend a LOT of time here on Mastodon, and I'm constantly looking stuff up and taking notes. Something that I'm sure has been there forever and I never noticed is the ability to drag text from the active tab to a panel. Works AMAZINGLY for notes and translating.
Demanding professional references from people with neurodivergent brains that make it difficult to maintain contact with former colleagues is ableist.
We are professionals who do good work and work great with people but please don't ask us to maintain social relationships which aren't meaningful to us beyond a reference.
Slightly bugged dwelling on #ADHD vs. #AuDHD, particularly with my experiences. I feel like a lot of non-medical #Autism resources lump ADHD symptoms and expereinces in with Autism ones, for good reason as a majority of Autis have ADHD, but now my impostor syndrome has gone "Oh I may be Autistic only" to "Oh I may be AuDHD" to "Oh I may be ADHD only" and it's really confusing!