These are the guidelines that I follow about boosting or not boosting something. These guidelines make sense to me. I do not care if they make sense to you or not. I also reserve the right to make rare exceptions when I see it fit, but I have to warn you that I don’t need to be consistent with my exceptions, and that a post has to hit a specific note for me to ignore my rules.
Also, I’ll note here that your popularity elsewhere, or even in the fediverse, does not matter. I regularly don’t boost posts by celebrities who do not use hashtags.
Ultimately, you don’t get to decide how I apply my rules.
Understood?
I try to be a considerate booster. If you know me at all, you know that I don’t like people who have nothing to say but boost all the things. Ironically, I eventually catch on to their shenanigans and end up muting them, so I don’t see all the things that they boost, and they want me to see so badly. If I follow you, it is because I’d like to hear about you. Conversely, I’m selective in my boosting, for the reasons given above.
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By far, the most common case in which I see a post that I would like to boost, but don’t, is when it has no hashtags. This is not merely my own itch that I’m trying to scratch here. Some people do not want to see certain types of contents. Proper tagging helps them know what your content is about, and helps them filter out this content if they don’t want to see it.
For these people, this filtering is self-care. When you post a post without tags, then they cannot care for themselves.
I also don’t boost posts that are merely “boost this post if you [something banal.]” Things like “please boost if you like cats,” “please boost if you are above 50,” etc. Note that I do not include in this group well written posts that ask to boost for awareness. Boosting for awareness is generally worthwhile, whereas boosting for the platitudes I put above ain’t.
Furthermore, I no longer boost posts that are from objectionable sources. Fox News is the prime example here. If it is newsworthy, there is certainly another source you could have picked. If Fox News is the only source, it is most likely a lie. In fact, I don’t even see these posts anymore because I filter them out.
Finally, I don’t boost posts that are just a link. Oh, maybe the link itself gives an idea of what the page I’m going to find at the other end is all about. Maybe I even follow that link and think what a great article! I won’t boost. I hate naked links in posts. Tell us why you agreed or disagreed with the article you link to.
I probably have more rules, but they are not coming up to mind right this moment, and are likely not as important as the rules above.
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3 years ago we found this Alstromeria on a discount rack. It thrived in our garden, but didn't bloom the first year because we got a hard freeze. The next year, one of our cats decided laying on it was the perfect spot. This year it is flowering like crazy! The message: You are beautiful and capable of blooming! It may not be in this season, but be patient and continue to grow!
Over on BSky, Rahaeli (who is amazing) made a post about how sometimes present them sticks a potato in the oven, because they might not want a potato right now, but future them often is really happy to have a baked potato.
The Future Me Potato is now a big part of my self care plan.
Does Future You need a potato? Maybe there's something else you can do to help Future You?
Climate Emotions and the Wisdom Our Bodies Carry
A free webinar
Tuesday, June 25, 2024
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Our emotional reactions to the climate crisis are highly individual, and shaped by our personalities, resources, circles of care, the news and media we absorb—and by inherited ways of thinking about the future. In this trauma-informed workshop, led by climate change chaplain Rabbi Ora Nitkin-Kaner, we will cast a gentle light on our climate emotions, and deepen our awareness of how they show up in our hearts and bodies. Learn how our reactions to climate change may be shaped by our ancestors’ experiences, and how we can expand our capacity for ease, connection, and action in this moment.
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I've been using the finch app for a month or so, its a self care type app where you can list your own daily or recurrent goals and get rewards for completing them. Rewards consist of clothing and furniture for a cute little finch bird who you are trying to grow. I've found it's been one of the few things that's made be act on some of the daily things I should be doing but don't usually manage.
Code & link in thread if you'd like to give it a try.
For those of you that like to take online quizzes and assessments, here's a mental health one...
Mine didn't tell me anything I didn't already know regarding depression and anxiety. Those have been with me off and on my whole life, and I came by them honest, as the saying goes. As for ADHD, well, one of my kids was actually diagnosed, so I did suspect it.
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From Crazy Town: "OK, urbanism is a well-understood word, but "speedism?" Admittedly Jason, Asher, and I are taking some linguistic liberties in this season of Crazy Town to maintain our "Escaping __ism" construction. That said, "speedism" isn't a difficult concept to comprehend. It's about recognizing how needlessly fast the world has gotten. Technology, which was supposed to free up our time, paradoxically takes more of it. But there are strategies for slowing down and living life to its fullest.
If, like me, you live in a city, there may be no obvious escape from urbanism, but we do present ideas for shifting the infrastructure, structure, and superstructure of urbanism. I hope you'll give these two episodes a listen and laugh along with us (or even at us) as we continue exploring escape routes from the Great Unraveling."
#Caregiving is exhausting, physically and emotionally. You must replenish your strength for your own wellbeing and that of the person you support. #Selfcare is a necessity, not a luxury.
👎 Au lieu de dire "je DOIS faire ce truc" ou "il FAUT que je fasse ce truc" et de sentir le poids de l'obligation (ça peut être prendre une douche, me débarrasser de cette tâche du travail...)
👍 J'essaie de dire "ça me ferait du BIEN de faire ce truc"
Et bien ça change pas mal la dynamique !
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When you are #caregiving for a loved one, making #selfcare a priority can feel impossible. For your own #wellbeing and that of the person you love, it is a practical necessity and a key to endurance.