I'm a straight trans woman, and my timeline is largely sapphic! It's time to even the balance a bit!
So if you've got any queer/trans content that my straight but queer ass might enjoy, please spam me with it! Memes, people/hashtags to follow, stories, I don't care what it is, I'll take it all :)
The social norm is constructed: not naturally occurring but created by the society in which it is found.
Hence there are no actions which in themselves are inherently #abnormal or universally condemned by all societies at all times. Deviance is thus situational and contextual.
I’ve not done one of these here yet. Hi! I’m Kayla, PhD candidate in #Ireland looking at suicide methods, locations of suicide and pro-suicide content online/digital communities
I’ve worked in suicide prevention/intervention/postvention for over 7 years and am founder of a non-profit in this area
Our survey on friendships, sexual and romantic relationships closes soon (5/31)!
If you're 18+ in the US (& especially if you're #asexual / #aromantic / #queer),
my collaborators (Canton Winer at UCI and Hannah Tessler at Yale) and I would love to include your perspective in our study.
I've engaged in the experiment of starting a sex blog called "Sex, Lives and Videotape". Here is my very first post titled "Beginnings and Self-Realisations".
Hello, cutie.city and other instances and all ships at sea!
Welcome to Tamsin's Pinned Toot. Please enjoy your stay... unless you're a fascist, a racist, a transphobe, a homophobe, or any other flavor of garbage person, in which case please step on a LEGO forever.
What follows are a few things you might want to know about me if you plan to hang around.
So, who the heck am I?
Hi! I'm Tamsin: a white, middle-aged, queer, sapphic, nonbinary trans woman who likes doorstopper novels, director's cuts, extended remixes, table-top roleplaying games, 5-string basses, double-cutaway Les Paul Jr. guitars, beaches, forests, mountains, witchy things, living places that haven't outlawed her yet, late nights, lazy afternoons, and writing down half of everything she thinks.
I'm happily monogamously married to a polymath superhero, and we share our lives with my marvelous teenaged offspring, two adorable cats, and a host of delightful friends and co-conspirators.
When I talk about #gender and #sexuality, it's probably helpful to know that I have a degree in Gender, Women, and Sexuality Studies (with a focus on #feminist history, queer theory, and trans studies) from the University of Washington. Sometimes I joke that I had to get a degree to realize I'm a gay trans girl, which isn't quite true, but still makes me laugh.
I'm exactly the kind of person who likes prog rock, punk rock, post-punk, trip-hop, house, dark folk, black metal, '70s funk, old-school R&B, early rock'n'roll, acid rock, acid folk, blues, early music, minimalist composers, anime soundtracks, and everything Prince ever recorded.
I have a profound fear of spiders, heights, and isolation.
Sometimes I make things. I craft, I cook, I play (and occasionally run) role-playing games, I play (and occasionally write) music and songs. Most of all, though, I write: essays, poetry, stories, and—when I was feeling particularly sassy—a whole-ass book about gender, sexuality, and queerness for witches, Pagans, and occultists. (If you want to check that last one out, here's the publisher's page: https://llewellyn.com/product.php?ean=9780738761329)
My politics are a simple story: I started out as a liberal in the 1980s and, flying in the face of conventional wisdom, became increasingly leftist as time went by. I support universal healthcare, universal basic income, BLM, antifa, indigenous rights, trans rights, queer resistance, sex workers, undocumented and migrant rights, disability rights, autistic people, plural folks, defunding the police, and radical inclusivity. I'm not an uncritical leftist, however, and I'm probably not ideologically pure enough for most movements. (Then again, I'm a gay trans girl, so most leftist movements don't want me around anyway.)
I have no quarter for fascism, racism, colonialism, sexism, misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, transmisogyny, ableism, exclusionary gatekeepers. I think all modern conservative movements are intrinsically evil, and if that describes you, exit the ride now. You're gonna have a real bad time otherwise. (I also recommend fixing your heart or, alternately, dying in a fire. Your choice.)
I've never been one of the Cool Kids™, and I never will be. I'm just an middle-aged geek.girl: sad in some ways, happy in many others, with a messy bookstore for a brain and a whirlwind of a heart which loves fiercely, if sometimes clumsily.
As someone who studies data privacy, very little in surveillance capitalism & exploitation of users by corporations surprises me.
BUT THIS: Kia, Nissan & others privacy policies state collecting and using information on your "sexual activity" & "sex life." Given cars are computers on wheels!!!
I'm pretty well versed in the bdsm culture, but I've always wanted to read more literature on the subject. Are there any deep dives or even academic papers to look at? Specific subject matter can be whatever, but I'm mostly curious about articles that delve into WHY some people enjoy BDSM and others don't.
What I choose to do with my private parts is my right. :transflag:
Even if that means uaing my private parts to sexually gratify myself in any way I choose.
Other people must be given those same rights.
This also means if I have the concent of others, I can gratify others sexually if fhey want me to and vice versa.
No, you cannot tell anyone how they must sexually gratify themselves because of orientation 🏳️🌈
No, this also means you cannot tell anyone how they are allowed to sexual gratify themselves because of age :aam: :mapflag: #sexuality#lgbt#lgbtrights#lgbtrightsarehumanrights
** On sexuality** - Mine is rather like Schrödinger's Cat right now. I know exactly how it all worked before as finsexual, a personal known universe of permutations and possibilities. But currently it's locked in a box with vials of HRT instead of radioactive particles. Tbh it feels pretty chilled out in that state but ...
Alive, sleeping or changing 🐈? It's all a bit of a lovely mystery whether my constellations and sweet spots will realign, or have shifted a bit when the box is reopened https://queerdom.fandom.com/wiki/Finsexual
I have a question for any other #Demisexual folks out there. For me, when I've been sexually atttracted to someone, and then consequentially have had that attraction break I would almost equate what I feel towards that person as ... well ... asexual. I am just not sexually attracted again. I feel complete neutrality. Is this normal? Am I even okay to describe the feeling as asexual? I feel so completely weird for asking this lol but it's why, for example, I can hang out with a friend of mine knowing very very well that absolutely nothing will happen between us, because I don't feel anything for this person. #Sexuality#Asexual#Attraction
This kid slaughtered a man who was dancing in a parking lot because he was #black and #gay, and his lawyer has the nerve to describe him as a "good #Christian boy". I suppose nothing represents #Christianity better than the unprovoked #murder of a man for no reason other than the color of his skin, and his perceived #sexuality. Christianity is a barbaric religion that is responsible for more human #suffering than any other cause in history. They're not good people.
#Male#Female#Naked#Nude#Sexuality Only a man insecure in his sexuality, would deny there is much appeal, arousal & beauty in the naked male, as well as the naked female form. As a straight man, I never have an issue in recognizing the handsomeness, sexiness of a man, or a good body shape & giving deserved compliments etc. 😊
😡 sex-negative: Hostility towards #sexuality in general. A form of #bigotry.
🤢 sex-#repulsed: If you find sex to be repulsive personally and it stresses you. Not bigotry.
😨 sex-#averse: Like sex-repulsed but weaker. You can deal with the concept of sex mostly, but the thought of being involved in sex yourself creeps you out.
:asexual_flag: #asexual: If you feel little/no sexual attraction.
>> “When you say ‘Well, this is a radical agenda,’ it's a way of saying that this person's life is not one that deserves to be told; their experiences are not worthy of being shared with other people and we should only share certain types of stories.”
Resources for reading about healthy experimentation in the bedroom?
I'm pretty well versed in the bdsm culture, but I've always wanted to read more literature on the subject. Are there any deep dives or even academic papers to look at? Specific subject matter can be whatever, but I'm mostly curious about articles that delve into WHY some people enjoy BDSM and others don't.