Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connection by Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD & John Gottman, PhD
How we fight predicts the future of our relationships. Most of us blunder into conflict without knowing what we are really fighting about and then quickly become overwhelmed by physiological responses we can’t control and emotions we don’t anticipate. The truth is the happiest and most successful couples fight—all the time.
We had our first quiet Saturday in a long time. This afternoon we made some time for art and creativity! @dohappybelove did the watercolor painting and @seanbala made a long-stitch book. The inside of Sean's book was made from an old calendar that we had lying around.
For the first time in a very long time we had chai and toast in bed. When we lived in India, we did that every morning with a book and journal. A nice way to start the last day of the year. And what a gorgeous view outside - finally some good snowfall for the holiday!
At the Osaka Japanese Garden in Jackson Park, Hyde Park, Chicago, Illinois. @dohappybelove is drawing and painting. This is one of our most favourite spots in Chicago. Definately have a lot of photos of this place in the archives somewhere.
It is rainy, but the couple in the secluded Italian alleyway do not notice because they have eyes only for each other. His fedora and her cloche hat give a retro, nostalgic feel, but the sense of romance is timeless.
One brand of kink that I find ridiculously hot, but is really hard to find porn of or likeminded people around is couples being submissive together. Particularly being spanked together of course (me being a card-carrying #spanko).
Like a couple being run through their paces by an exacting dom. Or my favorite fantasy of the couple having lost a bet or settling a debt with another couple, nervously shaving and preparing themselves together before going over for a night of used holes and beaten asses. Oh, how delicious it sounds in my mind!
Am I the only one who finds this stuff stupidly hot? I find precious little porn and erotica on the subject, and I've never really gotten a reaction from anyone I've talked to about this so far (not a huge group, to be sure).