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lizzard

@lizzard@social.tchncs.de

UX engineer, mama of one, gardener, hiker, scuba diver, keeper of three chicken.

Maybe autistic, definitely depressed. I know I'm different, but not how. Looking for neurokin.

Enthusiastic collector of knowledge in all kinds of fields.

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TarkabarkaHolgy, to Parenting Hungarian
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Today's WTF ad from FB:

Affirmation Stickers for Kids!
"A woman's beauty is one of her great missions."

No one warned me about entering a parallel freaking universe when I had a daughter.

😬😬

lizzard,
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@TarkabarkaHolgy ... What the actual... Seriously? In this day and age?

kristinHenry, (edited ) to art
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Hey folks!

Please do NOT report artists for sharing links to where their art is available to purchase!

Just DO NOT be such a jerk!

If you want artists to keep sharing their work on mastodon, this whole "absolute no commercial posts at all" attitude has to stop. There is a huge difference between a big corporate ad campaign and an individual artist posting a link to their own art shop.

Edit/Update: Well, this blew up. I'm muting now, and won't see replies.

lizzard,
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@AvonVilla @kristinHenry "I personally think creative expression is usually impaired by any sort of commercial activity and I try to steer clear of it."

Artists who can afford to avoid any sort of commercial activity are either hobbyists or extremely privileged...

AmiW, to art German
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⚪ Bald gibt es Schnee... ein
Lieblingsfoto.
🟤 Soon there will be snow... a
favorite photo. ❄️
📷 by Artist: / in Loc.: Japan 🇯🇵 - Title: "Shima Enaga" 😍 - ➡️

lizzard,
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@AmiW fluffball!!!

janriemer, to graphics

This is genius:

vong | The first compute-centric vector graphic video game

https://github.com/simbleau/vong

I think zooming should be an explicit feature in the game (which triggers some behaviour/state change in the game besides zooming).🙃

lizzard,
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@janriemer interesting idea! (Just remember to keep it accessible, some people need that zoom in order to engage at all)

koalie, to random
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Day 16 of (according to it takes 21 days in a row to detect the good before the bad). It doesn’t say how wide the range of good things ought to be. I am bugged that my own range is limited! (*)

After just 1 week, it was obvious I am either easy to please, or I really should get a life 😅

(*) good food, sunny days, nice bike ride, productivity at work, special bond with my teenager, that’s it! Not bad, but not as wide as I think is normal.

lizzard,
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@koalie isn't the point of this exercise to learn to notice how these little things make you happy?

Also, I'd count "special bond with my teenager" as a huge win.

lizzard,
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@koalie how long have you been doing this for already?

I did a similar thing in therapy this spring (I collected a list of things that help me recharge), and it took about a week until I had "calibrated" myself to reflecting whether something was good for me, then I gradually started noticing things.

Also, if you want to find new things that you're happy about - maybe it's time for actively planning some self care activities.

appassionato, to books
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Raising Good Humans: A Mindful Guide to Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids

A kinder, more compassionate world starts with kind and compassionate kids. In Raising Good Humans, you’ll find powerful and practical strategies to break free from “reactive parenting” habits and raise kind, cooperative, and confident kids.

@bookstodon


lizzard,
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@appassionato @bookstodon could you give a short summary of what they mean by "reactive parenting"?

lizzard,
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@appassionato @bookstodon ah yes, I've been there. Therapy helped.

SHODAN, to random
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Seems to me when the world is stressful to live generally I find it can be even more so being autistic. Curious to know if anyone else has the same experience.

lizzard,
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@SHODAN autistics are canaries in the stress coalmine.

anthropy, to random
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Occasionally I see videos of people rapidly doing things, like doing work, sorting stuff, chopping/building/crafting things, using calculators/devices, and I realized one thing is absent there

Computers. Anything that runs a full operating system.

Why?

Because they SUCK, developers all massively assume that it's okay for an animation to take sometimes even SECONDS, that it's fine to not preload things because "humans aReN't fAsT eNoUgH", etc.

We need more programs that aren't SLOW as dogshit

lizzard,
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@anthropy this is because people doing things fast in an automated way using a computer is not very clickbaity.

lizzard,
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@anthropy I suppose the trend towards web based interfaces hasn't helped there.

nixCraft, to random
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Truth 😅

lizzard,
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@nixCraft I've always aspired to have a "career", whatever that means. This year, I've both had a burnout and been offered a management position (in this order). Thankfully, therapy made me see what's really important and I declined that position.

TarkabarkaHolgy, to Parenting
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Toddler: "Mom, what is that?"

Me, munching on secret chocolate: "... nothing."

Toddler: "Mom, open your mouth!"

Me: .... chews faster

😅

lizzard,
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@cydonian @TarkabarkaHolgy the trick is to have some 100% chocolate ready for these occasions!

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lizzard,
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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic that's a very succinct describe of what autism means in interactions. Every sentence feels right.

GambaJo, to random German
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Eben noch schnell mit Junior Kastanien 🌰 gesammelt. Etwas weniger als letztes Jahr.
Jetzt können wir wieder Waschmittel produzieren.

image/jpeg

lizzard,
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@GambaJo Waschmittel?

lizzard,
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@GambaJo da schau her! Spannend. Das muss ich doch gleich mal ausprobieren.

Cassandra, to random
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Sign on the door at the pharmacy: “Mask-wearing is recommended.”

Unmasked cashier to masked customer (me): “Do you have a cold or something?”

lizzard,
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@Cassandra sigh.

kristinHenry, to random
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Hey! Do you have ideas for drawing prompts? Especially for SciArt?

Reply with a single word prompt, and if we get enough, I'll work on making a prompt list tonight and post it for tomorrow.

?

lizzard,
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@kristinHenry cells

btaroli, to ADHD
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Been quiet the past couple days. Had been stressing about family visit. It’s been OK actually, even though I didn’t get everything on my list done.

I must say that having the house decluttered has been so nice. As always I’m baffled why I waited, but then I also get why brain inhibits me sometimes.

Goal is to find tactics to help avoid the clutter from blossoming. I’m trying are ideas to start. I like thinking of it as a gift to myself.

@actuallyautistic

lizzard,
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@btaroli I decluttered two rooms this weekend, after which I was massively overwhelmed (but happy, I love decluttered spaces). I tried to get some quiet time but failed, because I have a kid. The day then escalated from there because I just couldn't take any more stimulation. Ended up having a breakdown and crying for two hours.

Just saying: I feel your pain, and in this household we have the same panic every time that relatives announce a visit.

Mer__edith, to random
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So many shady orgs cynically presenting child abuse as an "online problem" & peddling expanded surveillance as the solution while counting on the unpleasant emotional weight of the topic to distract us frm demanding evidence re claims that surveillance helps kids (there's none).

lizzard,
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@Mer__edith in short: enabling more surveillance over citizens through law enforcement and civil companies alike, and making encryption unlawful or at least make it look immoral ("what do you have to hide").

adfichter, to random German
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Wo stehen wir eigentlich gerade im Hype-Zyklus bei den KI-Modellen? "Tal der Enttäuschungen" ?

lizzard,
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@adfichter einige sind schon auf dem Peak of productivity angekommen, glaube ich.

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lizzard,
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@fictionalbutnot @actuallyautistic could also be that you aren't fully recharged yet and actually still yearn for more off time. So more in the burnout area...

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lizzard,
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@autisticbookclub @actuallyautistic personally, ideal family to me would be close enough to call on for help in a day, and meeting at least once a month or so. But not living too close (as in next door), so that everyone can live their lives to their preference, which are likely to be different in every generation.

lizzard,
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@autisticbookclub @mxtthxw @actuallyautistic well yeah, but is that an argument against the whole thing in general?

(Leaving your birth family behind should be way more accepted than it is, by the way)

lowqualityfacts, to random
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Every study ever: Overworked employees are less productive. Employees who work from home are just as productive as employees who work in the office. The evidence is indisputable.

Managers: I see. But I have a hunch that the complete opposite is true.

lizzard,
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@lowqualityfacts "I want people to work in the office, so my company isn't totally exchangeable to them. You know, as they are to me..."

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