I used to beat myself up over not finishing projects, until I learned that I have #adhd. My interests and motivation shift severely on a daily basis, which isn't really compatible with long term commitment.
I'm now trying to lean into it and enjoy the process of creation while putting less value in completion. Capitalistic society wants us to value the "finished product" above anything else - that doesn't mean I have to.
I know people with estrogen have said their ADHD gets worse during perimenopause/menopause, but I'm wondering if people with testosterone 50+ also notice their Autism/ADHD symptoms getting worse. Especially more "inattentive"/stuck in their thoughts.
I feel like we really need more research on all of this.
@KitMuse@actuallyautistic@neurodiversity person with mostly estrogen here (I think, anyway): my neurodivergent stuff did not get worse with changes. I had almost zero side effects of peri/meno except weight gain though. No hot flashes or other disturbances.
estrogen drops during perimenopause & i've gone from basically none to too much recently. I don't think i'm any more or less stuck in my thoughts than before hormones.
My autism symptoms do feel worse BUT I've also been doing a lot of work unmasking work, & listening to 🧠's needs, & feeling / being percieved as "more autistic" is normal then.
I read ADHD—A Lifelong Struggle today. It’s the best thing I’ve read on ADHD so far. Its advice is grounded in experience and applies to everyone: those who think ADHD is a crock or, worse, an excuse, those who suffer from it, and those who have family members or friends who suffer from it.
@nicola this is best book i’ve read on the subject. it’s got a good explanation of what it is, how it happens, who it happens to, what it looks like, and what to do about it. Everyone i’ve recommended it to has read it more than once
So happy I took the time to learn #Dataview. It's going to be revolutionary for my vault. It'll help me create main topic pages to keep track of my notes. I used to manually link every note to a "MOC" but I kept forgetting and found it tedious. This is going to be a "leave it and let grow" thing, and it suits my #ADHD brain immensely lol.
And how great it is that the #Obsidian anticipated our annoyance with YAML and come up with the properties feature? Genius.
Lemme get this straight, #BetterHelp helped themselves to $80 out of my account every month for several months while I dealt with undiagnosed #ADHD with no help from them (kinda hard to get treatment when you have to initiate all of the communication and you have raging ADHD). The US FTC sued them and all I get back is $9.70?
Good grief.
OH SNAP, they got sued for selling customer's data TO FACEBOOK. WOW! WHAT A PARAGON OF VIRTUE.
Someone needs to write an #ADHD videogame called "Dopamine Farming" where you have a stable job and a great life and all of a sudden DONT care about anything in the world and start planning things around the dopamine they will produce so you can get through the day, like, "Time for a haircut! I don't need one that badly, but that's fifteen dopamine points, so I'll take it!"
I had a Rockstar energy drink, coffee, and a small Red Bull can, and it made me so sleepy I passed out for 14 minutes and woke up feeling like I slept an hour.
Energy drinks are supposed to make me functional, not take a nap after 240mg energy drink caffeine + whatever 4oz coffee is.
@grant_h If you believe that "being sane" means eradicating people who appear different, then it would make perfect sense. I'm not entirely convinced that this is the right approach though. This is how humans work. You and whoever appears similar are fought for. I just don't have much invested interest here. So I can't vote for you.
My current world order, where my morning and overnight schedule has largely shifted to accommodate a crazy early start to get kiddo ready for alternate school pickup, has resulted in my not being up as late at night as I used to be.
What I’ve realized is this seriously impacts my productivity. I’m way more productive at quiet times in mg day, and now my working time is constrained to when others are around. This sucks.
I’m very glad this alternate placement has worked for my son, and is serving to help him prepare to transition back to regular school site. But to say I’m eager for the transition to occur is an understatement. I will be very glad to be back in a position where I can be more productive again and try and focus on more self-care.
It’s easy to forget the changes we make to help our kids sometimes hurt us.