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courtcan

@courtcan@mastodon.social

#author & #bibliophile: #fantasy #scifi #specfic
Amerigerman cultural mutt #ThirdCultureKid
#ADHD #DAVE
leaning into lack
mischief
a/theist tarrying in the "slash"
critical thought #neurosparkly
she/her
#Abi '96

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profile pic: me. white woman. 40s. chin-length dark blond curls w multi-colored streaks. gray & black t-shirt

header: from my YA fantasy THE ACCURSED cover: teen girl, back to viewer, traversing ominous forest. long frizzy hair, long red dress. hopeful light beyond trees

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18+ slothrop, to Parenting
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Now that the kids are a little older, my wife and I are realizing, with fascination, just how absolutely exhausting it´s been to Always Have Our Shit Together At All Times, come what may.

It´s good to be able to relax a little.

courtcan,
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@slothrop Spouse and I never Have All Our Shit Together...and we have always let kiddo see this (she is now 11)...and we are still exhausted.

courtcan, to Cats
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me: okay cats, here's your supper
CAT ONE: WHAT ABOUT TREATS
Me: you've already had treats
CAT ONE: WE'VE HAD ONE HELPING, YES. WHAT ABOUT SECOND TREATS
me: ...
CAT TWO: I DONT THINK SHE KNOWS ABOUT SECOND TREATS





ai6yr, to random
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I am short ten yen coins in my disaster supply kit. Also, wow! You can touch a fire extinguisher! 😅

courtcan,
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@ai6yr As of 2 years ago, there was one at 63rd & MacArthur in Oklahoma City. But I don't know of any others, and I don't know about that one.

I can't remember the last time I used one. It had to be before 2007, maybe before 2002?

courtcan, to random
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"Every time someone accuses you of a vice, they're showing you who they are and you should believe them."

-- @pluralistic

https://mamot.fr/@pluralistic/112297430071197974

courtcan, to til
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that "sovereign" comes from the Latin "superanus" and now I can't stop laughing I am a 12 year old 🤣🤣🤣



RickiTarr, to random
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What embarrasses you the most?

courtcan,
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@RickiTarr When my social anxiety manifests as total awkwardness as I stumble over my words and ramble, unable to stop myself talking.

Also when people look at me intently.

Also that thing I accidentally did that made someone feel unnoticed more than 17 years ago.

Also ♾️

TNLNYC, to random
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Here's a question for all the mind readers out there.

courtcan,
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@taatm @TNLNYC @danhon I mean, it really all depends on how you're defining that word, and you're gonna find as many definitions of it as there are mind readers who receive the question, so.

Adam_Cadmon1, to random
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It's the exact same playback across the board.

We won't own ANYTHING in just a few decades if we keep going this way. That's a guarantee.

courtcan,
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@log @Adam_Cadmon1 Just this morning I was using a pair of gloves to illustrate to 11yo how a mortgage works, in which the gloves were a house, she was the bank, and the loose change in the center console played the role of interest. I believe I did it well, since she asked questions that indicated comprehension.

But now I'm wondering... Will any of that be relevant 10 years from now? Will the rest of her life include the concept of purchasing something & actually maintaining possession of it?

GrimmReality, to random
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A streaming channel keeps pimping this romantic comedy movie Hope Floats as a cute thing where folksy cowboy Harry Connick Jr. folksily woos Sandra Bullock and every genuine impulse in me in 2024 looking at cowboy Harry Connick Jr. says "that Trump-voting yokel cunt will dismember you" so I will not be watching this movie.

courtcan,
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@GrimmReality Wait wait, Harry is a Trumper? Say it ain't so! 😫

slcw, to Arizona
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#FarRight #Arizona "#electionIntegrity" zealot, #AustinSmith, has based his entire identity on outrage over nonexistent #electionFraud. He wants a system where the electorate is comprised exclusively of white, #Christian, conservative men, just as #Jesus intended. So you might be surprised to learn that he's just been caught forging hundreds of signatures on his petition to run for state office.

#RepublicansAreTheProblem #RepublicanLies #RepublicanCorruption #VoteBlue

https://www.alternet.org/amp/arizona-gop-austin-smith-2667799137

courtcan,
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@slcw @MarkRDavid Lol here in Oklahoma that's a common sight.

courtcan, to random
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person1: my husband might have Parkinson's. my sons see the need for their help, but they won't step up
person2: how old are they?
p1: 18 & 19
person3: well there you go. they're still kids
me: part of it is also that our culture doesn't expect that kind of caregiving from boys
p2: oh but they're still teenagers
p3: you can't expect that from them
p2: remember when you were a teenager

Yeah, I remember when I was a teenager, 18 & 19. And that kind of help was expected of me. I was a girl

courtcan,
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And no, kids shouldn't be expected to become caregivers. But "even" boys can be expected to do the laundry and wash the dishes and vacuum the floors when they live at home,.pay no rent, and their mother is taking their father to neurology appointments.

Anyway, stop making excuses for boys and men when it comes to not taking on domestic shit.

RickiTarr, to random
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What kind of high-school experience did you have? Were you in a clique? Were you popular, unpopular, the coolest kid in your Homeschool? Did you have a sweet jean jacket with patches, or maybe a leather vest? Were you an evil villain or a Mary Sue?

courtcan,
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@RickiTarr I was an American attending German schools. The social structure was completely different from anything I'm aware of in American schools, so I don't really know how to describe it. I had friends. None of us were what might be considered popular? We definitely weren't part of the cool kids crowd. Most of us got fairly decent grades, but we weren't with the nerd crowd either. Honestly, I was suffering from undiagnosed ADHD & anxiety and was just trying to survive most of the time.

courtcan,
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@RickiTarr @elverkonge I taught my daughter at home for 2 years during the first years of the pandemic. She was enrolled in an online charter school, and most of her lessons were programs she could take herself through. But the whole system required my overseeing, I had to coach her through a lot of the material, and when it came to math I needed to be her actual teacher.

And she's an only child.

The whole experience showed very clearly that homeschooling is not for either of us.

courtcan, to random
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I just found a pair of my pants inside a plastic bag in the freezer and I don't know how they got there, in case you were wondering how weird my life is

docpop, to random
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I'm sick of justifying ethical behavior in terms of profit. We use phrases like "adding alt-text brings more customers to your site" or "protected bike lanes increase revenue for local businesses."

You should add alt-text descriptions to images because it helps people.

We need to build bike lanes because it makes cities safer and more accessible.

Reduce carbon emissions because it's the right thing to do! Discussing these things in purely economic terms misses the point.

courtcan,
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@rasterweb @docpop @DEDGirl I was thinking along similar lines. So only working people should be able to drive or cycle on streets? Only working people should be able to walk on the sidewalk? Only working people should be able to use the library or enjoy the services of the fire department?

People like "sicktitz" (🙄) refuse to understand: once you remove public services from one group, you're removing them from everybody and we might as well use chamber pots & empty them in the streets.

courtcan,
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@rasterweb @docpop @DEDGirl I swear I sound like a broken record to myself, but this week especially I keep running into this concept: "the purpose of a system is what it does." We are all being abused by the system, which means that is the system's purpose.

courtcan,
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@DEDGirl @rasterweb @docpop "First they came for" etc. 🫤

courtcan, to random
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Went with my parents to their attorney, as they want me (only child) to be aware of all processes in place when they pass & I inherit.

Not things I particularly enjoy pondering, but these conversations are necessary. As a family, we've had too many situations over the past few years in which the deceased didn't make adequate plans or inform heirs of the plans, leading to all sorts of unpleasantness.

So...and I'm reminding myself as well...get & keep your affairs in order, y'all.

courtcan,
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Make a will, make a trust, do whatever the things are that make the technical and legal details easier on your loved ones once you're gone. When I was a teenager, I thought it was hideously morbid that my grandma, who was by no means on death's door, had my mom help her pick out the dress she would be buried in.

This was probably in 1993 or '94, and Grandma didn't die until 2006.

Knowing what I know now, at 47, I understand the value of doing that kind of prep work. It eliminates guesswork

GottaLaff, to random
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Via Jesse Rodriguez:

has to be in the courtroom every day for the duration of his criminal trial.

"If you do not show up there will be an arrest," Judge Merchan said.

courtcan,
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@GottaLaff Please, please, please let him defy that order. 🙏

StillIRise1963, to random
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Progress shouldn’t be measured by technological innovation, it should be measured by global human cooperation for the common good.

courtcan,
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@JMD777 @justafrog @StillIRise1963 It's like Vinny Thomas's Galactic Federation sketch. "Is there enough food to go around? It looks like some people are starving. ...You do have enough food. Then why isn't it-- Logistics? You want me to write...'logistics.'" writing "Starving because of 'logistics.'"

courtcan, to random
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is DAVID TOE-IE 😁😁😁

mekkaokereke, (edited ) to random
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Happy #BlackHistoryMonth !

I'm still not onto Black history. I'm still on white US history.

Q: Why were Black folk so happy when OJ was acquitted? To be honest, it feels disgusting. Why does it seem like you're happy he got away with murder?

A: Racism. Black folk did not like OJ that much. In fact, many Black people think he did it. Black folk didn't "celebrate OJ." Black folk celebrated the hope that a brutally unjust, evil, and racist system, could be defeated at all.

#BlackMastodon

courtcan,
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@mekkaokereke Thank you for all of this. I was a young teen when it all happened, and living on the other side of the world. I knew it was happening but didn't have nearly enough experience or awareness to understand.

Still, I have my opinions about his acquittal...but I respect your exhortation not to engage with a Black person on the subject unless I have all available information. I just honestly don't know if I can stomach reading that transcript. Yes, that's my privilege talking.... contd

courtcan,
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@mekkaokereke ... I am keenly aware that my ability not to expose my heart to such vileness is a white luxury most Black people cannot access. It's also my anxiety and depression talking. So I vacillate between responsibility toward my fellow humans and responsibility toward my mental health.

Words and thoughts and phrases like that corrupt cop's are hard to process when depression wants to turn it all into despair.

I will read if I can. 🙏

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