WOMEN AT FAULT FOR POLITICAL DIVIDE: MARRY A MAGA MAN!
Ridiculous concern trolling by The Washington Post's editors, too cowardly to put a byline for the author, really showcases how #incel grievance has become normalized.
They argue *someone will have to compromise *(meaning women) or else marriage rates will tumble. I think women may have already found their own alternative.🤔
Know anyone who is still masking or working to avoid covid to some degree? Maybe they feel more isolated or limited socially, and having more social options that match their precautions would help.
There's a free "Covid Conscious" friends and dating match system beginning. Open to all walks of life.
It's launching in Oregon, while also offering to help anyone who wants to start their own local group anywhere else.
A community building niche for people who struggle to find others will do a lot of people some good, please spread the word.
Kiddo was complaining about difficulties #dating and meeting people in this era and that #GenX had it way easier. She bemoaned playing the dating app game; told me how much harder it is for #GenZ.
So, I told her about Personals Ads and how you’d get a bunch of letters with or without photos in response to your ad and you’d then have to respond with a letter or a phone call to those you wanted to meet. It took time to get a date that way!
She decided our analog dating program was much worse. 😏
I’m so unsure about this post. I don’t think it’s brilliant writing, but it captures a mood.
If you want to read it, please imagine me returning home after a date and pouring you a glass of wine while I babble about how this date went. #dating#BlindDate#OKCupid#Feeld#Tinder
The most joyous thing I've seen today is a man on TikTok extolling the merits of dating nerds such as himself:
"Don't feel like going out? Good. I usually don't. Why would I spend $120 on three drinks and a cover charge in a nightclub when for the exact same amount of money we can get the brand new Mario Kart, a bottle of tequila, Chinese takeout, and spend the entire night in our pajamas?"
I'm watching a show in which the mother advises her daughter not to ask a guy out because men don't like it if a girl is too forward. In our year of the plague 2023.
<ahem>
Women (who date men): Were you ever given this advice? Did you listen? How in your experience does it hold up?
Men (who date women): Have you ever been asked out by a woman? How did you react? Are you turned off if a "girl is to forward"?
This is our #introduction post for all new followers. We are a grassroots research project investigating #Viking Age and #Medieval#archaeology#dogs and #horses in Ireland and Britain. We are using cutting edge technqiues like #aDNA , #isotopes, #bones measurements (size/shape analysis) and #radiocarbon dating on dog bone samples. Our website is www.vikingdublindogs.ie and we are running a crowdfunding campaign to raise costs of #dating at the moment. If you can help please do and please RToot
This is a question that I ask myself often, probably because of the trauma I suffered.
I believe this concern about whether I am an asshole comes from innumerable times when I was unjustly labeled an asshole. Over time, I internalized the accuser’s voices, and now I ask myself whether I am, in fact, an asshole.
Let me tell you a little story. About two weeks and a half ago, I had a great date with a submissive girl. She was about all I wanted in a partner. She was autistic, like I am. Her autistic traits were different from my own. We had a wonderful weekend together. When I asked her how she felt, she said that she felt content. These were her words.
At the end of our date, a crisis happened in her family. Her family is not anywhere nearby. Still, it was a serious situation. The last I heard from her was that she had arrived home safely. Then, she went silent. I have not heard from her since our date. Is she okay? Is the crisis over? Did she travel several states away to be with her family? I have no idea.
When things like this happen, my mind goes into high gear. She was content. I gave her my all. I was kind. Still… did I… did I manage to put her off somehow? Did I do something that I did not notice? Am I the asshole?
Lest you think that I’m being dramatic with the worry about doing things that I did not notice, I’ll remind you that I’m now divorced, due, mostly, to my ex-wife not being able to handle my autistic traits. If she was annoyed with me, she’d glare. I would not be able to read her glares. Then she’d accuse me of deliberately ignoring her glares. Conversely, I accuse her of imagining that she glared. Yes, I’m quite capable of unwittingly putting off people, even ND people. My ex-wife has ADHD.
I’d like to think that I would act superbly in all possible situation. Alas, I know that’s not the case. I have sometimes not acted superbly. I was not acting like a monster, but I still managed to hurt people around me, sometimes the very people that I adored. I’ve sometimes managed to be the asshole.
I think as a response to the trauma that I suffered, and the fact that I don’t always act superbly, my brain likes to compare my actual behavior to that of complete shitbags. I can’t help it. That’s how my brain works.
Let me give you an example. During the date with the girl above, we went to have coffee. We sat at a table, and we chatted for a bit and drank. She pulled out her phone, and started reading a manga. I’ve been in the NT world long enough to know that if she had been on a date with an NT individual, that person would have interpreted it as her not being interested in the date. For my part, I did not make a fuss. I just continued talking to her, and enjoying her company.
Something similar happened later when I proposed to watch a movie. She said she was reading. I thought she meant that she did not want to watch the movie. No biggie. A bit later, I suggested putting on a TV show, because I had figured that perhaps the specific movie I had picked was not titillating her. She said she was still reading but that I could put it on and that she had the ability to watch TV and read at the same time.
Fair enough, I don’t have this multitasking capability. Let’s go back to the episode at the coffee shop. Would it have served me anything to get angry? No. Both episodes, however, would have been likely to cause ire in an NT person. Yes, I compare my behavior to those of NT folks. Again, I can’t help it. I don’t decide to do this. It just happens. What I do decide to do is to not engage in those destructive behaviors.
I sometimes wonder if I am going to be the asshole, even in situations that haven’t happened yet. I’m pansexual, but I’ve been with exactly one man. He is trans too. We had a nice couple of days together, but prior to this happening, I was wondering… Would I say or do something to turn him off. I had never been in that situation before. So I was comparing myself, again, to dirtbags. Was I going to be the asshole when we’d be together?
I was once explaining to a group of people that someone had ghosted me after one night of sex, but that I had decided not to go after her. Those people took me to task immediately. Why would I even decide not to go after her, unless I were some sort of monster who does actually stalk people. Hmm… let provide an explanation. First, as I said above, I cannot help compare myself to dirtbags. I don’t decide this. Second, I’m a software engineer. I’ve actually done things that would allow me to stalk someone if I wanted to. Doing those things does not require mental effort. I’ve not stalked anyone, but I could super easily do it if I wanted to.
I have an expression for what those people did to me: karmic shaming. People think of karma as this special force, but it is really just the conditioning that we receive as we grow up. I have the karma of someone who compares himself to shitbags. I also have the karma of a software engineer. This is my conditioning. I cannot help it. Shaming me about having this karma is not helpful.
I’m usually not the asshole, but I keep asking myself, even in situations where I shouldn’t: am I, in fact, the asshole? Did I do something I did not notice?
Szukałem jednej aplikacji na #fdroid i trafiłem na takie coś. Czyżby ktoś zrobił #tinder.a open source? Używał ktoś tego?
Jako adres podają Niemcy, więc pewnie jakaś prywatności jest zachowana.
Jeśli to rzeczywiście open source, to pewnie siedzą tam same nerdy 😋, a kobiet jak na lekarstwo.
Co o tym sądzicie?
Alovoa (Open-source online dating application)
Alovoa | F-Droid - Free and Open Source Android App Repository
Apps are mostly shit these days, and most of my #dating luck in the last few years has been down to the Fuck Referral Network. But if you're a dude who fancies some casual sex, how do you get women to recommend you to their mates?