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neurovagrant, 3 months ago to random

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btaroli, 3 months ago to random

Need to tighten up my follows or mutes. I wind up skipping hundreds of posts without reading when it’s several hundred a day. Bleh.

btaroli, 3 months ago to spiders

Some think it’s silly that I have a no-fly zone for spiders on the ceiling, especially in the bedroom. But I caught a shadow in my half-awake eyes and one of them was dropping down, inches from my face.

I hope you didn’t survive the pillow that launched you across the room. I don’t hate you but I don’t want to hug a spider with my face either.

#spiders #PersonalSpace #StayOffMyBody #JustNotIntoYou

briankrebs, 3 months ago to random

Had to get a loaner vehicle from a local dealership because a 10 y/o car that I love needed a lot of work. So they gave me the latest model of the same car -- brand new -- which was vastly less powerful than ours, and kept trying to steer me between the lines and cause the steering wheel to rumble when I hit a line and all kinds of crap that just annoyed me.

The dealership probably thought they would entice me to buy the newer model, but driving it just made me more convinced I made the right decision to put the money into the old car.

zen_at_nite, 3 months ago to random

Normally, beyond the simple political nature of being visibly gay and out in normal environments, I don't treat normal activities, like going to a gay bar, as a political statement.

It's just me, a gay man, hanging out with my friends at a bar, right?

I guess I get to add "political statement" to my reasons for going out on Saturday, now. Gotta make sure my attire rides the line exactly.

btaroli, 3 months ago to mastodon

Things that would be awesome: A Local feed that excludes people and hashtags I already follow. #Mastodon #fediverse

sebwhatever, 3 months ago to gaming

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic #askingautistics

What #videogame can you not stop playing?

btaroli, 4 months ago to ADHD

Someone shared this in our company neurodiversity slack channel, and I had some mixed feelings about the information shared. Has anyone tried this and can share the results they experienced?

“The Truth About ADHD in Adults: Harvard's Dr.
Chris Palmer Explains the Research”

https://youtu.be/XM5qZXqTQ3s?si=_VHW-zQOMEHP-ftL

#ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd

JessTheUnstill, 4 months ago to random

TFW you come across another autistic person whose autism is just kinda... Out of phase with your own. So you're just really irritated and frustrated with them and how do they not understand that they're being rude and missing all the correct rules for the environment... And then you realize... Fuck ... That's what I look like to the neurotypicals...

btaroli, 4 months ago to LGBTQ

I like advocating for visibility for we #NeuroDifferent, #LGBTQ, etc folks. There are times when #ImposterSyndrome really kicks in. I was “nominated" to run a discussion panel at a work conference in a couple weeks, I was thrust into lead in a work diversity group (someone else moved on) and the first event I'm running is about to happen.

I'm feeling totally in the dark and just the teensiest bit terrified. Somehow things are happening. I'm thankful for that.

#ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD

btaroli, 4 months ago to random

STILL getting over this second flu. I thought cough was the end, but no apparently it's massive sinus congestion and draining and sore throat. I have a special gift for ever started the infection chain that got me my second flu this season. Grrr…

#flu #influenza #PainAndSuffering

btaroli, 4 months ago to ADHD

One thing I notice about being sick or exhausted, say after a night of poor sleep, is that my anxiety level trying to usher son through his getting ready is far less. I just don’t have the energy to get to that place. A place I didn’t really want to be.

Is there a way to avoid getting to that anxious place when I have the energy, I wonder… 🤔

#ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #ParentingWhileAutistic @actuallyautistic

btaroli, 4 months ago to random

Yes, awake happened at a weird hour. But for the first time in the past week I feel AWAKE. This is a nice feeling.

Fuck you, Flu.

#influenza #flu

btaroli, 4 months ago to trustandsafety

I've made the decision to move one of my accounts, largely because of the way they opted to apply #moderation that they later reversed after it was appealed. What do you mean that #Autistic people aren't #sexual? Or even #kinky? I know many! Indeed there are studies suggesting Autism could incline someone to it. I guess my Autism was news to them. Why not ASK first?

So I’m shifting that one to another server where I already chat with other ND folks on these subjects and should be a decent fit.

btaroli, 4 months ago to random

One case of #flu was quite enough this season. Two is irritating. And we are fully vaxxed. Is the implication that my symptoms would actually been worse had I not? Sometimes the case for #vaccination isn’t clear.

PSA: Stay the F home (and keep kids home) at least 24 hours after your fever breaks and you no longer require meds to control it. You just might save other people a LOT of grief.

bughuntercat, 4 months ago to Autism

We autistic people have a way of communicating that can confuse people. We talk too much and we can be very kind and correct with a stranger. That doesn't mean I care about your life, I'm just doing what I'm supposed to do and I don't care about your life, affection and approval. In fact I don't care if you exist or not. (They call it low empathy, but I'm not sure it is.) :catjam:​

#autism #actuallyautistic

kevinrns, 4 months ago to random

OMG.

MS Kills 240,000,000 Computers

"Canalys analyst predicts that 👉 🔥 👉 240 million Windows 10 machines will end up in a landfill after the end-of-life date arrives. 👈 👈 👈 We already have a big issue with e-waste, and the report claims it's only going to get worse as people begin to throw out their old computers.
(Old means MS abandons)

MUST MUST MUST save those machines with Linux for schools, for give-away, for make up a reason . . . . DAMN

https://www.makeuseof.com/cant-upgrade-pc-windows-11/

btaroli, 4 months ago (edited 4 months ago) to ADHD

Am I the only person to notice that CBS News showed an advertisement for Autism Speaks today, during national news at 4PM PT? I live in SF Bay Area, and I’m not sure if this was just from local KPIX. I do certainly plan to reach out and raise their attention to the harm this group causes.

#AutismSpeaks #CBSNews #KPIX #CBSSF #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #BoycottAutismSpeaks @actuallyautistic

verge, 4 months ago to random

Google is losing its Fitbit leaders and laying off hundreds of AR employees https://www.theverge.com/2024/1/10/24033994/google-reorganization-fitbit-park-friedman-ar-layoffs?utm_content=buffer87871&utm_medium=social&utm_source=bufferapp.com&utm_campaign=buffer

yourautisticlife, 4 months ago to Autism

Declaring One’s Autism Won’t Do Anything To Combat Police Ineptitude

I don’t think that declaring that one is autistic will change anything.

I’ve seen lately a bunch of news articles talking about new rules whereby people who have behavioral disabilities, autism in particular, will be allowed to declare their disability so that the police can handle them properly. Before we go any further, let me point out that I’m using their language here. I don’t think autism is a behavioral disability in and of itself. However, autism can be linked with conditions that can be disabling in some contexts.

I also think that in some jurisdictions, the declaration of disability is not merely allowed, but mandated by the jurisdiction. I cannot go over all cases in this article. There’s already a problem in those places where they merely allow it, mandating it will only make things worse.

I don’t think this is going to fix anything, overall. Yes, maybe in some encounters with the police, a declaration of behavioral disability will change the outcome. However, generally speaking, this won’t change the outcome of a police encounter. Oh, do note that I’m talking about the policing system in the USA. This might not apply where you live.

The problem in the USA is that the police is trained to escalate. I don’t care how many supposed deescalation classes they are supposedly taking at the academy. At the end of the day, these classes don’t make any difference, generally speaking. What we see in the news is that the police will escalate encounters, and harm people who are themselves harmless. Those who bear the brunt of this attitude are the minorities. These may be racial minorities, sexual minorities, medical minorities, or any other minority that will appear different from the norm.

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It is my opinion that rather than trying to carve out exceptions for the minorities, the police should take deescalation to heart, for everyone, instead of paying lip service to it. See, I don’t think that someone who is foundationally trained to escalate encounters will magically turn on a switch to deescalate when faced with those people that a cop should handle differently. This is just not going to happen.

There’s also the issue that some people, for whatever private reason they have, do not want to advertise their behavioral disability, or their autism. Some people can face stigmatization if they slap a label on their car or their house saying they are autistic. What will happen if the police screws up handling an autistic person who decided not to declare it? Will the cops be excused then, as they are so often excused now due to qualified immunity?

Moreover, assuming the system were to give some advantage to disabled people in their encounters with the police, I’m wondering if some miscreants will fake disability. “I’m sorry. I did not mean to take this chocolate bar without paying. I have OCD.” This is a long shot, but it is possible.

Oh, and what about those self-diagnosed autistic people? The autistic community overwhelmingly recognizes us as autistic. (I say us because I’m self-diagnosed.) Will the police require that someone who says they are autistic have a formal diagnosis from somewhere? Will the police disbelieve someone who does not appear autistic enough and ignore the need to handle them differently. Will they insist that the only real autistic people are those who look like Rain Main or Sheldon Cooper?

Unfortunately, my advice to people with behavioral disabilities is still to keep their distances from the cops. I moreover don’t see any advantage in pre-declaring your disability. I don’t think a sticker will help you. Now, when you are faced with a cop, then maybe you want to say that you have sensory sensitivities, for instance, and ask for the cop to turn off his siren. Wait until you’re faced with a cop.

If you need help with someone who has a behavioral disability, and is in a crisis, and you think they need help in the moment, consider these options, in order:

1. Offer to take them to an appropriate mental health facility. You’d be surprised how often they will accept the help.
2. Call the local Mobile Crisis Team.
3. Call 911, but ask to be put into contact with the Crisis Intervention Team. Make sure no cops are involved.

This varies by jurisdiction, the important thing is to avoid calling in the cops. Only if these methods fail, should you consider involving the cops. Do also note that the keyword in the above is crisis, don’t do any of this unless you are faced with a crisis. A kid having a meltdown is not generally speaking a crisis. It may be annoying. Deal with it.

The above advice is what I remember from a class given by the National Alliance on Mental Illness. These people are experts at dealing with crises. I took the class to help an ex of mine who had schizophrenia.

Ultimately, I think the notion that we should self-declare our behavioral disabilities is well-meant but ignores the reality that we face in day to day life, and ignores the very problems that are at the root of policing in the USA.

Train the police to handle people with more humanity, and this will also take care of those with behavioral disabilities.

#ActuallyAutistic #autism #autistic #AutisticWriters #BehavioralDisability #deescalation #disability #escalation #police #PoliceIneptitude #YourAutisticLife

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/01/04/declaring-ones-autism-wont-do-anything-to-combat-police-ineptitude/

ivory, 4 months ago to random

If you are part of our TestFlight Beta, we pushed update 1.8.1 which features completely revamped polls and a few other things. Give it a shot and let us know your thoughts!

No new TestFlight openings, but we are working hard to get this release finished and out to everyone!

*Note about TestFlight Subs: TestFlight doesn't read your app store sub and so you must subscribe in TestFlight if it asks. No real money is transferred as it's just a test environment.

btaroli, 4 months ago to random

Today’s adulting task was getting car windshield repaired. I didn’t even spot this myself but I’m glad it’s handled now.

#RoadHazard #windshield #Safelite

Windshield damage from rock

btaroli, 4 months ago to random

#HappyNewYear

New Year Party GIF by Lucas and Friends by RV AppStudios

btaroli, 4 months ago to Electricvehicles

Some of us remark about the speed at which consumer devices become “ancient,” but we spotted these in an actual antique store just yesterday!

This could easily be one of these new screen and software driven cars sold today, but a scant 6-7 years. I’m quite happy with my 18+ year old car. I have no faith car companies understand software or can magically maintain and support it properly.

#RetroConputing #iPhone6SPlus #iPhone7Plus #antiques #SoftwareSupport #ElectricVehicles #longetivity

iPhone 6S Plus and 7 Plus in an antique store display.