Natasha_Jay

@Natasha_Jay@tech.lgbt

A 50-ish displaced world-citizen▫️Worked around the 🌍 on Corporate IT & ERP stuff▫️#Fediverse :fediverse: explorer & attaché▫️Loves the interesting considerate folk here, cool vibe, no ads or algorithms▫️Authentic, serious, quirky...

▫️#Tech #Recipes #Food #Gaming #Retrogaming #UKPolitics #Cats #Calckey #Firefish #fedi22

▫️Zengender #Trans Gender-Witch▫️Perspectives, selfies, and Judith Butler stuff▫️Finsexual

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Natasha_Jay, to fediverse

Feels like a good week to tell every non-binary person in the how amazing you are, and remind everyone here that non-binary identities are stunning, beautiful, individual, deep and go so far beyond the 'enby' or 'NB' stereotypes you may not believe unless you're talking with them to understand ... :heart_nb:

Well you're adored, amazing, you've taught me over the years and are still teaching me new things about gender ... including off-grid outside the binary. Plus you take personal authenticity to the very very max. Do I sound a fan? Well yes, cannot deny how much I think you all rock ... :flag_nonbinary: :butterfly_nonbinary:

Natasha_Jay, to trans

Elon Musk: Apparently using "cis" or "cisgender" will now be considered a slur going forward on the birdsite

Any regular person still on Twitter should be making plans to leave, if you haven't already

It's just going to get worse - move to or anywhere else at all

Natasha_Jay, to fediverse

"Sleeping like a cat" (well this lazy cat) always seems a far better expression than "sleeping like a baby"

... or is it just me?

A weekly offering to all the feline 🐈 gods and goddesses of the

#猫 #ねこ

Natasha_Jay, to fediverse

My cat Coco, tempting one to play with a typically goofy upside-down position.

Those with sharp eyes may note his claws are already out - ie be careful with this overwise very gentle moggie 🐈

(An offering to the gods and goddesses of the in the absence of anything interesting to say currently 😉)

#猫 #ねこ

Natasha_Jay, (edited ) to trans

Trans folk rapidly learn to 'clock' people around us too eg. do you ... ?

  1. Tolerate us (as trans) ... or
  2. Accept us or
  3. Affirm us or
  4. Cherish us

The true cherishers we find on the way are so 💖 💜 that we will never ever forget you and always return the feeling

Natasha_Jay, to fediverse

I'm always careful not to view the in terms of increasing User Count due to bots and dormant/lifeboat accounts but FediDB looks interesting as it shows better data points like MAU (monthly active users) and activity (post count)

While MAU has dropped off since February '23, the posting activity has still continued to increase each month, you chatty lot

There's a lot of information in there, worth a look if you're into data-nerding :fediverse:

https://fedidb.org/

Fediverse Posts Per Month rising from 400 million in June 2021 to over 900 million in April 2023

Natasha_Jay, to animals

We join Mastodon or the Fediverse to check it out, but stay for the cat pics. So if you're thinking of leaving or even of requesting a Blue Sky invite, the boss would like a word with you ...

Natasha_Jay, to fediverse

Some key Calckey thoughts after a few days in the deep-end, trialling it [hopefully a no-hype end-user perspective]

  • KEY IMPRESSIONS

1️⃣ Has real potential, new features in there that are not in Mastodon eg. word search, antennas, message chats, channels ++ 👍

2️⃣ Many will love it just for the amazing web UI plus a decent android PWA app

3️⃣ Still a work-in-progress though overall

  • quality
  • lack of user documentation, we're learning as we go
  • a few key Mastodon features aren't there yet eg. Edit Post doesn't exist ⚠️
  • timelines feel cluttered
  • some published new features (eg. migration of posts) are pretty "beta-status" when you actually try them out
  • it can be fine or frustrating depending on all the above

4️⃣ 3rd-party mobile app support is very limited vs. say Mastodon (Tusky, Fedilab, Megalodon, Tooot etc on :android:)

  • SUMMARY

Real potential, but for now it's very early adoption phase / try-before-you-move
I'll keep on trialling, ongoing & do feel free to ask :fediverse:

Natasha_Jay, to random

Nicola Sturgeon: calling for equality for the LGBT+ community at last night’s 🌈 Rainbow Honours awards ...

“Firstly, the progress towards equality is not linear, it is not one-directional, it can go backwards as well as forwards and this is a moment when we must be strong in making sure it continues to go forwards.

“My rights as a woman are not diminished in any way shape or form by the enhancement of the rights of trans men and women.

“Never let anyone tell you otherwise. This is a moment for unity, a moment for solidarity, a moment for strength and for courage.

"... for as long as there is a breath in my body, and I hope that is for some time yet to come, I will always be an ally.

“A strong, unflinching, unequivocal ally.”

The National: https://archive.is/F4EKp

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Natasha_Jay, to animals

My Coco being weird when a little younger. He goes under beds and chairs then pops his head out like this - it means he wants to play! 🐱

#猫 #ねこ (early submission for )

Natasha_Jay, to uk

Inside Britain’s tiniest places: 'There’s really only space for one punter inside this micropub at Claygate station (and more)’
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/jul/07/inside-britains-tiniest-places-its-an-engineering-work-of-art-with-coffee

... in the commuter town of Esher, which has a 30cm x 38cm (12in x 18in) bar and makes fine use of a former coal ordering office. Drinking takes place almost exclusively outside the pub, and with glasses banned by the council, the 55 regulars have pewter tankards (labelled with their names) hanging on hooks inside. Others sip their ales from compostable cups or take them home in milk cartons. The food menu extends to local sausage rolls.

Honestly, this is the kind of story I need more of in my newspapers...

Natasha_Jay, to trans

** UK Constitutional Law Association re: the Scottish 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 Gender Recognition Reform appeal (S35) **

The basics of it imo are:

▫️ it is complex, hard to call
▫️ will be decided by the UK Supreme Court based on Constitutional Law principles first and foremost
▫️ the UK Supreme Court will want to establish clear Constitutional precedents going forward
▫️ I suggest to ignore upcoming legal "hot takes" in the right-wing press from any 'legal talking head' or KC who say this is a no-brainer win for Westminister

This article covers it well -
https://ukconstitutionallaw.org/2023/04/25/chris-mccorkindale-and-aileen-mcharg-rescuing-the-gender-recognition-reform-scotland-bill-the-scottish-governments-challenge-to-the-section-35-order/

"... the unprecedented use of s.35 means that there is considerable uncertainty about how the legal issues will be decided"

"As this case makes its way through the courts, we hope that judges will be equally alive to the dangers to Scottish democracy ... of allowing policy choices allocated to the devolved level to be too easily overturned by the UK Government"


Natasha_Jay, to altersex

If you talk to non-binary folk personally about how they experience gender, you'll never stop learning new things about it :flag_nonbinary: :ms_nb:

Natasha_Jay, (edited ) to trans

✨ ✨ Authenticity. Authenticity. Authenticity ✨ ✨
I cannot say it enough. As trans it's what we seek, even if we cannot always articulate it or are working on 'realising' it. Whatever you see is just an inner me coming out. Unpack yourself fifty times, challenge yourself, unpack again twenty times (we'll that's my style! 😂).

Pretty? "whatever". Boobs? "whatever, if you want then sure". Dysphoria? Not a mental condition, a result of trauma, of societal repression from the day you are born ... Nose job? "yeah that'd be nice thanks!!"

Feel nice and comfortable as and in yourself? "Yes, now that's the real deal, then you're getting there ..."

Today - jeans and a plain top

Feeling vulnerable, weak, tired. Also feeling strong, genuine, fizzing. Women can be complex huh? Amazing, must be the hormones ...

✨ Gook luck with your authenticity ✨ Try not to be a copy or idealised verison of anyone or anything - cis or trans

CW: selfie, direct eye contact

Natasha_Jay, (edited ) to animals

An evil glare 😾 from my cat on having his photo taken: the ruler of the house shows he's displeased at being disturbed? An early post for

#猫 #ねこ

Natasha_Jay, (edited ) to trans

Gender Incongruence: "Before 2013, the situation was even worse because people were then diagnosed with a clearly defined mental illness know as gender identity disorder. Yes indeed to qualify for hormone therapy you had to be certified by a psychiatrist as having a mental health problem. But how can affirming your own personal identity be a disease? Who is really suffering the dysphoria? Is it the client or is it the mental health professional, desperately trying to defend society's need to minimize the extent of gender diversity?"

... an extract from "A Guide To Transgender Health" (2019) by Rachel Ann Heath PhD (@Playcontra :heart_trans: on the birdsite) and Katie Wynn PhD, FRACP

Natasha_Jay, to fediverse

🐱 Can now confirm 100% you DO get "wiggly ears" in Calckey cat-mode ...

... with UI options turned up high (uploads my first MP4 video!)

Tbh there's some far more serious bits of functionality in there and in testing, not just a wizzy UI ... 🐱

A video of cats ears wiggling on your PFP/avatar in Calckey if you have cat-mode turned on

Natasha_Jay, to food

** Recipe: Thai Massaman Chicken curry (authentic w. slight adjustments) **

I haven't published a recipe in a while but this is by far my favourite Thai curry, being southern Thai w. Indian influences. This is pretty authentic, noting I'd always buy the curry paste!

https://www.bbc.co.uk/food/recipes/thai_massaman_chicken_82428

  • 50g Massaman curry paste eg Mae Ploy**
  • 2 tbsp vegetable oil
  • 2 red onions, sliced
  • 500g/1lb 2oz chicken breast, cut into 1.5cm strips
  • 2 large potato, peeled and cut into 1.5cm cubes
  • 250ml/9fl oz good-quality chicken stock, preferably homemade
  • 200ml/7fl oz coconut milk
  • 2 tomatoes, skins removed, flesh roughly chopped
  • 6 lime leaves
  • 1 star anise
  • 2 tbsp fish sauce**
  • 1½ tbsp palm sugar
  • 2 tbsp soy sauce (imo light soy)
  • 1 lime, juice only, optional
  • 25g/1oz roasted peanuts, roughly chopped (I use cashew nuts)

** When working with curry paste, each brand has different "heat" plus a different level of saltiness, so it’s difficult to determine an exact measure of fish sauce

Natasha_Jay, to random

"Suella Braverman asked civil servants to help her avoid a speeding fine and points on her licence by arranging a private one-to-one driving awareness course.

"The arrangement, which the home secretary sought after being caught speeding last summer, would have meant she would not have to attend an in-person course with other motorists, or an online one where her name and face would be visible on camera to other participants.

"When the civil servants refused to help, she turned to a political aide who tried to persuade the course provider to agree to the arrangements.

The Times: https://archive.is/q0Xif (archive)

The infighting starts ...

Natasha_Jay, to trans

** Trans selfies vs Cat pics: who will win? Please boost/fav so for just ONCE I get more favs than my own cat by end of Caturday **

As my cat's 🐱 pics regularly out-perform mine - can all trans :heart_trans: folk and Fediversians please help me beat him, like just for ONE single weekend? 😂

> He has already has a headstart of ~100 even before Caturday starts officially, so please ...

⭐ Fav this selfie

:boost_requested: Boost for wider visibility

:cat_heart_eyes_trans: Catgirls are allowed to fav my cat too of course ...

I'll re-boost this and his pic at the same regular intervals tomorrow & naturally [Elon-mode] I promise to abide by the result of this poll ... 😉

CW: selfie, direct eye-contact

Natasha_Jay, to fediverse

I'm terrible on sending "hugs" as it feels a bit non-authentic for me personally (what with being English, and all that) but I just saw the phrase "sending strength, tea and biscuits" which somehow felt perfect somehow, so -

Sending strength, tea and biscuits to all trans folk here in the :heart_trans: :heart_nb: 💜

Natasha_Jay, (edited ) to uk

The Deep-Fried Jam Sandwich 🥪 - English cooking is still alive and flourishing

https://archive.ph/76q8q (archived, UK Telegraph)

"The £5 treat is comprised of two pieces of sliced white bread spread with Tiptree’s strawberry jam. The sandwich is sealed together like ravioli before being deep fried and rolled in sugar...

"Eric Snaith, the chef-owner of three fish and chip restaurants in Norfolk and Cambridgeshire, said he had taken inspiration from an old Scouts recipe for a fried sandwich and ended up with the 'intriguing' dessert"

Comment - actually, it does look delicious! But omg ... the calories? 😋

Natasha_Jay, to animals

My cat in a bit of goofy mood. Not sure what he's up to honestly! An early entry for ...

#猫 #ねこ

Natasha_Jay, to trans

UK: "I’m the UK’s first non-binary barrister – 30,000 non-binary Brits like me need legal protection

My friends and I have faced hate crimes. Without legal recognition, we do not have confidence that we could take someone to court"

https://inews.co.uk/opinion/without-laws-recognise-exist-non-binary-people-vulnerable-2476799

Natasha_Jay, (edited ) to trans

Having been here and posting as openly since early November, the reason I adore the (or at least my corner of it) is the safety for us and wonderful moderation. It's a joyful, quirky, safe space where people can flourish :heart_trans:​

It was much quieter back then, but you know what? I'm here to be openly myself. To post cat pics, chat on tech and politics and whatever. I'm not here for 'reach' and I don't want to read transphobic slurs - which I have also seen on the lemmy side of the Fediverse - it's like reading birdsite stuff. So I fully support servers wanting to protect people like myself pro-actively as a starting point because Threads can be the same, but also much worse given user numbers

QT: can strongly recommend this:
https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/1013876

And if you don't follow Ada @ada - the wonderful admin of blahaj.zone and lemmy.blahaj.zone - consider it a big recco, as she's simply awesome btw

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