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oldladyplays, 7 days ago to random

To any of those with contact with young people who are out protesting for Palestinians.

When the cops come for you, like they did, with heavy hands and empty orders, they're doing that because the boss class wants to scare you. They want you to think that they're going to blackball everyone who ever got a charge for protesting from ever getting a corporate job.

1. This is bullshit. There are too many of you, in a full-employment economy, for them to shut you out. And if not, you'll find ways to start your own organizations, and build society differently that way.

2. They're doing it this way because they're afraid of you. They're afraid of your passion and commitment in pursuing something you know could damage a career. They worry about having employees like that, because your kinds of people become the seeds of unions. Of worker power.

3. Keep it up. Keep up the pressure. You're winning. They don't know it yet, but you're winning.

I can't be with you right now, because of my disabilities and health stuff. But I'm behind you. Cheering you on. You're doing the right thing, the moral thing, and doing so with deliberation and hard thinking.

revoluciana, 10 days ago to random

Something incredibly freeing about calling yourself a radical. Big thing is it makes you relatively invulnerable to typical ad hominem attacks.

When you admit you're a radical and stand confidently, then even the most conservative can't use it as a tool to dismiss your rationality. They may dismiss radicals en masse, but that's not new. But they can't just dismiss you as an individual they are talking with directly.

Because that sort of attack isn't meant to discredit you so much as it is to control you. It's meant to paint you as irrational and to group your ideas in with villainy. This puts you on defense, forcing you to concede reactionary points you don't fully agree with, just so that you can appeal to what they point to as collective rationality, or "common sense."

But when they say, "now you sound like a radical," you are able to say, "Yes, that's because I'm a radical, and...? Okay, back to my point."

They lose all leverage. Because it won't reshape your stance.

Impossible_PhD, 1 month ago to random

As a passionate supporter for vastly increased public transit infrastructure, bike transit infrastructure, and more walkable cities, probably the thing that pisses me off the most about trying to make these things happen

Is how fucking stupid many of the arguments that activists for these things choose to make.

Choose.

There are other options for your persuasion.

Ones that're much more likely to work.

sigh

DivineKestrel, 1 month ago to random

What if I joined the FBI?

Impossible_PhD, 1 month ago to random

Okay, I just read the most absolutely fucking perfect sentence for people who are questioning their gender, feel drawn towards a different gender, but who are afraid it's "just a fetish," especially with certain kinks that get shamed heavily.

"If a sponge retains water it has little to do with the water and everything to do with the sponge."

Ooooh that's a good one.

18+ smitten, 1 month ago to random

I feel like I just can't let go of what happened over the past two primaries. Pretending like it's resolved doesn't help explain anything that's happening right now. I hear a lot of smart people complaining that people have tuned out of politics. Or they're upset that people care about issues they shouldn't be caring about. There's often a positioning like, "you're not doing real politics, you're just posting on the internet". What counts as real politics? The kind that is already sanctioned by people in power, and follows their talking points. That's it, that's basically the distinction. Please show me how Biden fans online are engaged at a higher, more persuasive register... What are they saying that is more legitimate?

People were incredibly engaged in 2016, like I've never experienced before. We were framed as whiners, too uninformed to understand how politics really works, immature college stoners who couldn't know anything. After Clinton lost, those same engaged people were scolded for the next six+ years, and told that the only thing they are good for is voting blue. That it was their personal failure that gave Trump the white house.

You only have to compare Biden's response to the Palestinian crisis to Bernie's to see that we were right. At the very least, if we weren't 100% right, we had some useful things to say. Now we're going into another election cycle with the major issues unresolved. Police brutality hasn't been addressed, universal healthcare hasn't been addressed, student loans haven't, minimum wage hasn't. People disengaged because you told them what they cared about should not be cared about. That they should be caring about other things, like how cheap it is to buy a Tesla and whether the unemployment number went down. I don't care about those things, I care about the things I told you I cared about in 2016, before you laughed in my face.

DivineKestrel, 2 months ago to random

I remember living in South Carolina. It was racist as hell. Like, just straight up open love of The Confederacy, people straight up saying n** and talking about "those people." Whole areas and towns of Black folk living separate and interacting only when they need to.

Now I live in Oregon. Almost nobody is openly waving confederate flags. Everyone talks about inclusion and tolerance and acceptance. And there are a lot of people who will tone police others about that. It's a happy place of liberal joy.

Here's the thing: There are a TON of Black folk in South Carolina. Some places they are the majority, if not in power. And the Black folk know what they're dealing with, and can fight it very directly.

Meanwhile, there barely are any Black folk in Oregon, because the state made laws to exclude them. And now we're either subtly excluded or openly objectified. And we can't say anything because we'll hurt white feeling.

Twitter is like South Carolina.

Mastodon is like Oregon.

lumiklovstad, 2 months ago to random

reclaimingtrans, 2 months ago to random

When I was a radfem/TERF, I used people arguing with me to spread my views. It’s one of the most effective ways to spread propaganda. You know you’re not going to get everyone to agree with you, certainly not the person arguing with you but that’s not the point. You’re trying to reach people who will. Now that I left the anti-trans movement I never, ever debate or argue with transphobes. I block them. I’m careful about describing their ideology so as not to help them spread it. I fully support deplatforming, disruption, public humiliation, and other antifascist tactics. Those tactics make complete sense to my now because of my past as a TERF who focused on propaganda/recruitment/cultural influence. Listen to antifascists, not clout-chasing journalists.

Crazypedia, 3 months ago to random

A powerful spell came across my timeline 📜

Impossible_PhD, 3 months ago to random

If you're white and part of the trans community and think that this doesn't apply to you?

Think. Fucking. Again.

We have a lot of work to do.

https://www.washingtonblade.com/2024/02/12/hrcs-forthcoming-2023-black-lgbtq-youth-report-finds-intersectional-challenges/?utm_source=flipboard&utm_content=topic%2Fgaycommunity

Impossible_PhD, 3 months ago to random

Presented without comment.

textfiles, 3 months ago (edited 3 months ago) to random

Hey, people. Foone Turing (the "I go way too deep into computer investigations of vintage tech" person) has indicated they're officially laid off, and running out of money while trying to find a new job. If you have a job, hit them up. Otherwise, please throw some dollars:

https://ko-fi.com/fooneturing

aprrrl, 3 months ago to random

I'm looking to hire a plural system familiar with Internal Family Systems therapy for sensitivity consulting on one of my upcoming games

no game design expertise necessary

please boost and share!

josh, 3 months ago to random

a CEO can never be held accountable therefore a CEO must never make a management decision

sidereal, 4 months ago to random

Got tired of having this conversation over and over again so I just spent way too long making this:

18+ oddtail, 4 months ago to random

I don't see this talked about like, ever.

So I'll talk about it.

If you realised you're trans but find yourself sometimes not really hating your assigned gender and being like "meh" to it?

1. That doesn't mean you've been cis all along;
2. It doesn't mean you just imagined your dysphoria;
3. You're not "pretending" anything or lying to anyone, least of all yourself.

It just means you're more tired than dysphoric. Your brain can't keep negative feelings at full steam all the time, which is good. It's not supposed to.

Do not measure your transness by how much you CURRENTLY need to transition. Dysphoria comes and goes. So does euphoria, for that matter.

I went through several cycles of "I am trans. Wait... I don't feel strongly about this anymore. Was that real? No, wait, ARGH, I'm trans. Wait..." and so on, before I started transitioning. Fooled me every single time.

I still experience this. I'm experiencing this today. I am currently wondering why this whole transition thing is such a big deal to me.

But guess what. I know I'm trans, I've been through this before. Doubts that something is true are not the same as knowing it is not.

You will have doubts whether you're trans years after you transition to your general satisfaction. You will. It just happens. You will still be almost certainly happy that you transitioned. That's what being trans means.

If you don't MIND your assigned gender at the moment, but still your actual gender sounds neat, you're still trans.

You're allowed to pause things and recalibrate, or focus on something else. Your transition should go at your pace.

But you haven't suddenly become cis. I promise you that you haven't. You still prefer to function as your real gender, don't you?

I've done this enough times that I need to say it. It's OK. It ebbs and flows. As long as you're not actually satisfied with your assigned gender, as long as you have ANY overall need to transition, you're not cis. You may be genderfluid or genderflux or bigender or agender or genderqueer or non-binary. Knock yourself out exploring those (I sure did). There's no penalty for concluding with "nah".

You may also be very Very, Very Tired.

But none of those things mean "cis". I'm begging you, believe me.

EDIT: one good way to figure this out is - OK, so you don't jump for joy at the thought of transitioning. Now imagine yourself in your actual gender. Imagine it's all done and dealt with. Is your imagined self repulsive, do you want to avoid this? Does the idea of HAVING transitioned fill you with discomfort?

If not, then you're not cis. Cis people are uncomfortable with the idea of transitioning because they inhabit their AGAB. That's their entire deal.

EDIT 2: also, this is the MOST unintuitive thing ever - I firmly believe feeling "meh" about transition can paradoxically be a symptom of dysphoria.

I don't think it's an accident that I currently feel this way after some rough days, and while having to deal with several days' worth of facial hair. One way dysphoria manifests is that your emotions shut down for maintenance. It's good. But it doesn't mean they were never there in the first place.

Lana, 4 months ago to random

DUDES: women don’t like me

WOMEN: maybe you should stop worshiping rapists, idolizing misogynists, get off Reddit, touch grass, have goals and aspirations, and engage in basic hygiene

DUDES: no it’s because I’m a nice guy

julie, 4 months ago to trans

Remember how my previous employer denied my WFH request so that I could flee the state of Ohio to take care of my trans kid while still working for a company I loved?

I just heard they did it to someone else today.

When you insist people come in to an office a few days a week because you want a "hybrid culture" not a "remote culture" and then tell them to just fuck off when all they want to do is get their kid somewhere safe that makes you an absolutely shitty person.

I'm done hiding who it was.

The company is #OverDrive, based in Cleveland. They make ebook lending software for your local library called #Libby. They say they care about their LGBTQIA+ employees and families but that is clearly a lie.

Ohio lawmakers are turning my home state into absolute garbage and companies like this one are playing along.

Tell your local library to #DropLibby

[Edit, since this is doing numbers: The reason my request was denied a little over a year ago, despite me explaining in detail why, was because they "want a hybrid culture, not a remote culture." (a quote from a senior leader to my face)

In both 2020 and 2021 while the whole company was working remotely I won two annual employee excellence awards for my work on their Security team, while the company had record growth.

Meanwhile, one of my teammates moved out of state to be closer to family and continued to work remotely.]

#Trans #TransRights #Ebooks #Libraries #Bookstodon

Terra, 4 months ago to random

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jrefior, 5 months ago to random

This woman is a hero.

"Nearly 3 years ago, a young professional in the nation's capital was sitting in her apartment after the #Jan6 attack and saw that the FBI was looking for help identifying the #rioters who stormed the #Capitol. So she opened the Bumble dating app, changed her political beliefs to conservative and got to swiping.

"Her strategy was to say, 'Wow, crazy, tell me more,' on repeat until guys gave her enough to send their information to the FBI."
https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/justice-department/jan-6-rioter-nabbed-bumble-dating-app-sting-pleads-guilty-assaulting-o-rcna130593

dancinyogi, 5 months ago (edited 5 months ago) to random

Can you drive a stick shift (manual transmission)? 🚗

Answer yes even if you haven't driven one in a while.

#poll

Please boost and reply with where you are from

trishalynn, 5 months ago to random

This morning's read is from IndigiNews again, talking about the land defenders who are attempting to halt the process of the TMX oil pipeline through lands which are considered sacred to the Secwépemc people.

https://indiginews.com/news/breaking-into-tmx-secwepemc-allies-wrapped-in-chains-drop-tobacco-into-borehole

If you're able, consider donating to help the authors and activists mentioned in this article complete the documentary about the efforts?

https://www.gofundme.com/f/send-brandi-to-cover-secwepemc-last-stand-on-tmx

nailsthatglow, 5 months ago to KindActions

I am well aware of how stressful this time of year is when it comes to money.

Having gotten sick and then a foot injury myself, I am in a super bind.

I am now in the hole $400. I am running short on my last paycheck and the next will be half what it would have been.

If I can get $200 ASAP things would be stressful but manageable. Next month I will set aside that amount and give it to people myself. I really need this help now and am working as hard as possible.

Depressingly was not able to get gifts as planned for partner and family. The things I got last month is it less than what I wanted to get for her. She loves me so she gets it.

The recent visit for x-ray and specialist was an extra cost I did not want to happen. Not to mention the loss of days worked.

Venmo/Cashapp - nailsthatglow

#transcrowdfund #mutualaid #MutualAidRequest #trans #lgbtq #queer #nonbinary #healthcare #money