mariyadelano, (edited )
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Alright. Gonna write a piece on the impact of users on our culture in the

So let’s start with a poll. Boost please!

Are you neurodivergent?

(Self-diagnosis is valid, I know how freaking hard it can be to get the official one!)

@actuallyautistic

SECOND POLL WITH MORE TYPES OF NEURODIVERGENCE: https://hachyderm.io/@mariyadelano/110753113559931102

mariyadelano, (edited )
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Okay, secondary survey for people who are but not ASD or ADHD:

What kind of condition do you have?

PLEASE EXPLAIN IN REPLIES IF YOU SELECT ‘OTHER’. And please boost to expand reach 🙏

@actuallyautistic

AlexTheAutisticArtist,

@mariyadelano @actuallyautistic aphantasia, hyperempathy.

mariyadelano,
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digitalraven,
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@mariyadelano ADHD in the first, Other - Bipolar II for this one.

siderea,

@mariyadelano @actuallyautistic

I am not going to explain in the comments.

It's always struck me that, as used, the term "neurodiversity" seems to be short for "neurocognitive diversity", which is a much smaller subset than the fullness of ways humans can be neurologically diverse.

Like it's really clear the term is not meant to include migraineurs and epileptics; people with conditions like prosopagnosia, aphantasia, synesthesia, amnesia, dementia, or Parkinson's; variant chronotypes; or any of the other weird and wild neurological conditions.

The term neurodivergence was quite deliberately deployed as a pushback against the conceptualization of certain conditions as psychiatric, instead of neurological. Autism and ADHD, of course, are in the DSM, putting them on the psych side of the neuro/psych divide, which now seems outdated and very wrong, given what we know about them today. I applaud that political use in that context, but...

siderea,

@mariyadelano

As somebody on both sides of that line, I find myself uncomfortable with the terms "neurodiverse" and "neurodivergent". Insofar as I am neurocognitively unusual, I have a valid claim of inclusion. But insofar as I am neurologically unusual in ways that are not cognitive, the terms feel more erasing than embracing, more marginalizing than empowering.

This is not a call to broaden the definition of those terms. I do not want a movement of people with autism and ADHD to presume to speak for those of us with very unrelated conditions and quite different social challenges, or for that movement to pretend to be inclusive where it is not. Nor do I want to steal the thunder of a very important and valid political movement, diluting the focus on already marginalized peoples.

It's just the terminology turns out to be a bit of a problem.

@actuallyautistic

morothar,

@siderea @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic Honestly you are welcome. The community is not about gatekeeping and determining if a label or one of its definitions applies to you enough to be in our community and get support from each other. That support and respect will also not go away because you feel uncomfortable using a label for yourself. "We" try to never speak for "all of us", but we tend to advocate for inclusive environments for everyone.

siderea,

@morothar

Nice job not listening to what I was saying.

@mariyadelano @actuallyautistic

morothar,

@siderea @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic In that case I am sorry. I re-read your toots and now have no idea anymore about what you tried to say. I will not try to assume again.

I am also not exactly happy that you use that frustration of yours and aim it at me when I offer support and community. It rubs me the wrong way.

ar_collins,

@siderea @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic This is a really interesting point and I've been kicking around the distinction between neuro and neurocognitive as it applies to "neurodiversity" all day, so thank you for posting this.

I agree with the way ND has a widely understood definition of primarily those two conditions as wide discourse seems to flatten nuance out of everything eventually.

Despite doing quite a lot of study on Parkinson's recently, for instance, it never occurred to me that it should be thought of as being under that umbrella.

Same with my own Aphantasia. It just sits in its own basket, away from everything else. But this is admittedly down to the systems-based approach of the medical system I grew up in, where each issue is discrete and able to be addressed absent context

Much like was said elsewhere, my extremely limited experience of discussions around Neurodiversity on here include and promote the voices of people with all sorts of conditions, but I can appreciate that the sheer weight of the big two would feel overwhelming, if not outright exclusionary

I'm not sure what to do with this awareness, other than keeping eyes and ears open as always, but it's definitely going to keep me pondering for a while, particularly in how to approach it personally and as I come into OT professionally

So, yeah. Thanks for sharing your experience and I apologise if I sound in any way patronising or overbearing, just wanted you to know it had stuck with me

CatHat,
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@siderea @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic neurological diversity is not short for COGNITIVE anything.

Most autistic and adhd people are also something else

I view ND mostly as "neurological nontypical which it doesn't make sense to view as mental illness"

ginsterbusch,

@siderea @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic I gather its different, but there also is the difference - that I have not yet fully groked - between neurodiverse and neurodivergent.

But AFAIK one of these means "neurologically diverse", while the other mostly points towards autistic people.

Personally I prefer #neuroqueer, as it adds the queer sexual identity to the mix, and includes all neurologically diverse people.

mikolaj,
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@mariyadelano @actuallyautistic dyspraxia (clumsy, awful at sports, in primary school had constantly self-untying shoelaces, writing with large letters (were esp. absurdly large in primary school), pressing the pen to the paper abnormally strongly)

cour13r5,
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@mariyadelano voted on both b/c AuDHD & TBI & cPTSD

marjolica,

@cour13r5 @mariyadelano as well as allowing that we might want to tick more than one box you usefully could have also included an option 'none of the above' for those who don't think they tick any of the other boxes.
Though when we communicate here clearly everyone should count it would also be instructive to know absolute as well as relative frequency in the for each option.
I suspect we are overrepresented here compared to in the general population.

mariyadelano,
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@marjolica @cour13r5 "neurotypical" is for none of the above, and the secondary poll has additional options including "other ND”

marjolica,

@mariyadelano @cour13r5 thanks, my mistake (brain-fart skim reading on a phone rather than a PC).

funcrunch,
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@mariyadelano @actuallyautistic

I have . I consulted a therapist last year (at the age of 52) thinking I might be autistic. Based on our sessions he said he wasn't sure about that, but was 100% positive I have SPD.

Archivist,

@mariyadelano @actuallyautistic

I guess chronic depression would fit there too

msbellows,
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@mariyadelano @actuallyautistic Tourette's + ADHD. (And I work as a special education mediator.)

josephholsten,
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@mariyadelano @actuallyautistic Never seen anyone mention diagraphia! Thirty years after diagnosis, my disgraphia has turned into a hobby of fountain pens and slow, intentional calligraphy. Also have diagnosed ADHD & OCD.

josephholsten,
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@mariyadelano @actuallyautistic I honestly have no idea why people are favoriting this. Thanks?

seano,
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@mariyadelano Voted on the first poll, but I also have Type 1 Narcolepsy!

amymyoung,
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@mariyadelano @actuallyautistic

I'm AuDHD with dyscalculia, was a hyperlexic child (reading by 18 months on my own, over third grade level by 5). Smattering of anxiety disorder related as well (OCD & PTSD) and shall we say spicy depression.

cherold,
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@mariyadelano

I've got prosopagnosia and aphantasia, which I believe are neurological issues. Do those count?

@actuallyautistic

simid,

@cherold @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic
prosopagnosia? I'd like to know what it is if you don't mind explaining..

mariyadelano,
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@cherold I think under some conceptions they do, but they are more contested / people think they are symptoms rather than conditions. But all of this is complicated so I appreciate the specific details!

ada,
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@mariyadelano @cherold Aphantasia isn't a symptom...

cherold,
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@mariyadelano
Symptoms of what?

looneybyron,
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@mariyadelano I am autistic and have ADHD, resulting from abuse due to those conditions I have cPTSD.

littlerachyb,
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@mariyadelano @actuallyautistic more than one type of ND (pol only let's you pick one) but yeah. Not NT for sure.

CatHat,
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@mariyadelano @actuallyautistic im uncomfortable with answering because im AuDHD AND other stuff.

adelinej,
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  • mariyadelano,
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    @adelinej I know, that's why I was encouraging additional explanations in the comments :)

    servelan,
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    @mariyadelano @adelinej Next time, don't shout. Comes across as a demand, not encouragement.

    annaraven,
    mariyadelano,
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    Thank you, everyone!

    This poll got more answers than I could have possibly hoped for, and all of your comments have been even more fascinating.

    I’ve got more than enough to write my piece so thank you all! I want to try and represent in a fair way all the nuanced questions and experiences you’ve shared with me. Stay tuned, I’ll share a link to the piece once it’s published (sometime in the next 7 days). ☺️☺️

    shawnhcorey,

    @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic

    I am not neurodivergent. I am neuroperspective. The neaurocommon call us divergent because there are more of them. Blatant bigotry.

    JeremyMallin,
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    @shawnhcorey @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic I think I might prefer "neurospicy" 😉

    flywheel,
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    @actuallyautistic @mariyadelano

    Diagnosed as Autistic+ADD at the age of 48 - all questions about awkward social behaviour and difficulties in the educational system suddenly got answered after 3½ minutes in session with a psychiatrist with autism and ADHD as speciality.

    autisticphotographer,

    @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic
    Autistic, diagnosed at the age of 31.

    Johnny_nada,
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    @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic combined type ADHD, but mostly presenting as inattentive. No diagnosis, but starting to suspect I might also be autistic, although I’m probably closer to baseline neurotypical on that axis and I’m very high masking in any case.

    teancom459,

    @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic

    Well. At least I think I’m neurotypical.

    Wife might disagree.

    ludiusvox,
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    @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic

    Schizoaffective, and i had ticks when I was a kid. When i get stressed I start audio visual hallucinations.

    Huitty, (edited )

    @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic I'm autistic and ADHD as well as Migraine sufferer, dyspraxia and dysgraphia, aphantasia CPTSD and anxiety.
    I don't use the term AuDHD because I don't understand it well enough and because autism defines me more than any of my other neuro diagnoses.

    elysegrasso,
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    @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic Regarding your poll.: none of the above

    youronlyone,
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    SoftwareTheron,

    @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic
    Self-diagnosed; mild autism. I'm 62, male.

    greenroc,

    @mariyadelano I'm certified autistic, Bi-polar Tendancies, PTSD Symptoms(C-PTSD?), but I suspect I maybe Dyspraxic at my core, instead of all of the above. Environmentally caused PTSD from my nature/limberness being rejected since toddlerhood.

    (my mom told me how I would suck my toes when I was a baby, I can still touch my face with my toes 46 years later). The shame and pain I felt when I bend so much more than typical people, emotionally and physically bend.

    Awesome poll, I boosted.

    VeeRat,
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    @actuallyautistic @mariyadelano I am self-dx autistic. Anyone saying self-dx is not valid can go sit and spin. I have misdiagnoses on my medical record that they refuse to remove, even though my psych agreed that she was wrong about them. So would I go get diagnosed and add another thing to my medical record? No thanks. Doctors already think poorly enough of me. I know that autism is correct, it’s incredibly obvious to me, and I am the only person who matters for this.

    kontaidistro,

    @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic
    I’ve a.d.d. and am dyslexic.

    ParadeGrotesque,
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    @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic

    Missing option: I don't know, I have never been tested.

    Source: I suspect I am not entirely neurotypical, but... I have never been tested.

    not2b,
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    @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic Not sure how I would map my answer to your poll, but my daughter was diagnosed as Asperger's (before they folded that one into autistic spectrum disorder), and her issues were the same as mine, but I was never formally diagnosed, I was just considered a bright but socially clueless nerd who struggled with social situations.

    Vincarsi,
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    @not2b @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic You could probably self identify as Autistic. The understanding of autism as a neurotype is very new. A lot of people from previous generations who would've been considered "quirky" or "eccentric" would likely fall under neurodivergent classifications today. I was never diagnosed, but when my kid was, the specialist assessing her straight up told me that the reason I saw her symptoms as "normal kid stuff" is because I'm likely also on the spectrum

    not2b,
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    @Vincarsi @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic Yes, I remember arguing to my wife that some of my daughter's problems were "normal", because she was like me. She did have issues I didn't have (and vice versa).

    speculater,
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    @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic another ocean of self-diagnosed people creating answers.

    matt_g,

    @mariyadelano I hope it’s ok that I answered both, as I am audhd and have a TBI

    Eeyore_Syndrome,
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    @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic

    What's the one where I'm super excited to do something (buy new PC parts and build it)

    Super happy and focused whilst doing it.

    Then super depressed and sad afterwards even tho it's booting perfectly etc etc.

    That'd be me 🤣.

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    @jabberati it's definitely something I'll have to think about and comment on in the piece. Part of the point in gathering this data in general

    VoxofGod,
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    @jabberati @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic funny, im perhaps more leery of 'official' diagnosis

    snacks,

    @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic im neurodivergent definitely. I struggle with small talk, certain sensory issues, OCD, anxiety… but yea why wassup 😐

    Skyliting,

    @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic I'm neither Autistic nor DHD but i am definitely on the somewhere.

    wilbr,
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    @Skyliting @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic the expanded definitions of those are so wide lately, "I'm not autistic but I'm neurodiverse" very very very often means you're at least a little bit autistic ❤️‍🩹 main question is how various things align or other conditions combine to affect your life and what to do about it!

    https://embrace-autism.com/raads-r/

    Skyliting,

    @wilbr @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic That's fair but I don't want to claim a diagnosis a doctor hasn't given me yet. Doesn't seem appropriate to me.

    mariyadelano,
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    @Skyliting @wilbr then don’t!

    wilbr,
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    @Skyliting @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic I fully understand that, but doctors suck. Ask 5 therapists to diagnose you and you'll get 10 answers (speaking from experience.)

    I think if you take the RAADS test and arent in the neurotypical range, and you find autism-related advice to be particularly useful for you, and you're not speaking over others' experiences, then there's nothing wrong with saying you're on the autism spectrum.

    wilbr,
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    @Skyliting @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic I'd stay silent about this except it took my AFAB partner over a decade of mental health work and nearly three decades of pain to have a doctor say "that sounds like autism" instead of a half dozen other terms, and she's made more psych progress in weeks than in previous years. AFAB people are massively underdiagnosed and insurance companies don't like conditions they can't throw pills or CBT at. You may enjoy "Unmasking Autism" as well ❤️‍🩹

    wilbr,
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    @Skyliting @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic it should be noted that two of the most official, credentialed, hospital certified, insurance covered people my partner saw were:

    • a psychiatrist who said "your psychologist [down the hall] was right, you are very pretty" and then was completely unhelpful at his one job of understanding her history and prescribing appropriate medication and advice
    • a psychologist who, upon hearing of a death affecting someone near her, suggested talking to a psychic
    Skyliting,
    wakame,

    @Skyliting @wilbr @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic

    And if you manage to find a psychiatrist who lived under a rock for the last 20 years, they will tell you that normally only males can have autism and you likely "just have borderline".

    If they didn't live under a rock, they might do the same simply out of habit.

    Skyliting,

    @wakame @wilbr @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic argh! That has to be frustrating. My best psychologist is a CBT guy and he is the most respectful of my experiences.

    foolishowl,
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    @wakame @Skyliting @wilbr @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic Most of the psychiatrists in my area who diagnose ASD are ABA practitioners: specialists in coercing children to hide their autistic traits.

    There are a few others, but I realized I'd ultimately be shopping for someone who'd just say what I wanted to hear in exchange for a lot of money.

    Lately I'm hearing of dangers of discrimination if I did have an official diagnosis. Some countries prohibit the immigration of autistic people.

    wilbr,
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    @Skyliting @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic the two therapists who helped her the most so far are just random licensed professionals who she happens to vibe with after much hunting, trial and error, and privilege, and we pay out of pocket for. In such a situation you can basically keep rolling the dice until you get a diagnosis you want, so it's not psychologically useful. What's useful is when someone helps you work through issues and practice a lifestyle and mentality that works better for you.

    adelinej,
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    @wilbr @Skyliting @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic Look like my own story and we are so many with a similar experience! Like many others I got x diagnosis before a young psychiatrist finally suggested autism while I was 49.

    Skyliting,

    @adelinej @wilbr @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic I am touched and pleasantly overwhelmed at the welcome from the community. Thank you all so much!

    nellie_m,

    @Skyliting @wilbr @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic

    this statement is the very secret entry ticket to an official self-diagnosis 😉

    if all the autistics here who ever had that thought at the beginning of their journey of discovery raised their hands now, I bet pretty much all those hands would be up 😆

    (“impostor syndrome”, very common because we take things seriously and want to be 250% sure)

    simid,

    @wilbr @Skyliting @mariyadelano @actuallyautistic that site has good info but it collects all the data you enter.

    wilbr,
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