Hey guys. Guess what? Hydrocodone can cause insomnia. I didn't sleep worth a crap Saturday night. It's very early Monday morning, and I've been awake about an hour. I slept roughly 3 hours. Le sigh.
I think I need to deal with the pain without the opioid. Extra Strength Tylenol works fairly well, and doesn't disrupt my sleep. Yeah, I'm in pain right now. Guess I'll sleep later, maybe.
They call for more data on the "death Toll", money and more (killer) roads, but never for a radical infrastructure redesign. No data on "roadkill" of native animals either.
I'm seeing folks casting about trying to build their support systems, but not always clicking. Like the structures aren't there yet, lots of people are tooting out to crickets.
So this is a general call out pls share:
active tags (or groups) that are helping you connect and be uplifted
gaps or struggles ie "I can't find a tag/group for [ ]
any tags/groups you are trying to launch
Let's create and consolidate and enliven the tags we need.
Something more folks should talk about:
A hard thing to recognize as trauma survivors is when we're stuck in scarcity mindset.
Scarcity mindset shows up as conserving resources, or as fears and defensive reactions around other people using resources (especially shared resources, but even their own).
We can develop scarcity mindset from past scarcity experiences, but also from traumatic situations (aka, both). Scarcity mindset is also absorbed and exacerbated from people around us.
It is very hard to recover from scarcity mindset without abundant resources — and hard to perceive or recognize abundance when we have it, and still hard to recover.
This essay is so, so heavy, but worth reading if you're struggling with hard questions about societal trauma.
"I've been living in denial of my vulnerability.
It's not hard to grasp why. Just like nobody wants to admit their parents abused them, nobody wants to admit they're vulnerable. Look at how society treats anyone perceived as weak.
Who wants that?
No, most people hide their vulnerability, even from themselves. They don't want to be treated like a burden. They don't want to be dehumanized every time they ask for accommodations. They don't want to be constantly told they don't matter. They don't want to rely on someone else just to get by. They'll try anything else first."
Healing from trauma can be almost indescribably painful--but as with anything to do with being trans, we are never our pain.
We are our incandescent joy.
This Christmas on #StainedGlassWoman, we are, appropriately, going to be celebrating A Million Twinkling Shards of Light: post-traumatic growth, where healing trauma can transform who you are and shape the course of the rest of your life.
I met a gentleman a bit ago, and my time talking to him about transmasculine erasure and living in deep stealth. It touched me deeply, and I think you ought to hear about his journey.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're going to take a long, hard look at The Glass Closet, where so many of us wind up after transition, how high the price of living in stealth can be, and where the line between authenticity and privacy lies.
Anyone else get that brain thing where, because they have An Important Meeting sometime later in the day, their brain won't let them do anything else because you might miss it, or be late for it, or somehow fuck it up or forget about it?
"the kids can't read!" TikTok isn't being dramatic this time?
by Khadija Mbowe
Parents and children are isolated from other support systems during the pandemic. Parents are burnt out and need compassion and community. "The kids aren't doing ok because the parents aren't doing ok."
"Many women and men begin new relationships never dreaming they could later be enmeshed in a cycle of intimate partner violence.
Now, a new study finds there are early behavioral warning signs from a partner that suggest the risk for violence is there. And the more signs a person sees in the partner, the higher the potential risk."
The mastodon-native version will hopefully be up later this week!
Also, a very big thanks to @Impossible_PhD for not only publishing both of these intimate pieces on gender trauma on her own blog, but also for editing and helping me refine these pieces. You're amazing and wonderful Doc! 💖
Recovering from cPTSD can be a difficult journey--but it can be the difference between surviving and thriving, for many trans people.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we'll be Holding the Girl with @JoscelynTransient as she shares one of the most tender moments I think has ever been published on SGW. Come join us to learn more about recovering from trauma, EMDR therapy, and why it's important to take the time to heal.
#Sociology has a pain "problem." We use concepts like (collective or cultural)#trauma draw allusions to pain, but do not ground them in the fundamental experience of rejection, exclusion, isolation, etc. This paper does this while theorizing SOCIAL trauma. When we understand the science behind social pain, or the neg. affectual response to rejection and exclusion, we can collapse the distinctions btw cultural and collective trauma.
I think the filters catch non-hashtag words fine, too, so if the post contains “trauma”, a hashtag is not needed, but if you describe something traumatic without using the word trauma, you could add a #trauma to aid filtering or just write “CW: trauma” (less advertisey)