How does one go about screening and hiring new carers? We've never asked anyone who Flip didn't already know well to help at home or watch him while we go out, and all but one of them still live back in Wellington.
I'm nervous about the prospect, and while R likes visitors, separation transitions are touchy; it was often an anxious time even when we went out and left him with friends for a few hours on weekends.
When you space out listening to something, you get maybe one chance to rewind and try again. After that, it's not happening. The more times you try, the more gone it is. Just move on. #adhd
I got a little to grumpy today and didn’t handle myself well due to being over stimulated in the car, but it’s not always like that. It was a good day with good times. I have to remind myself that our brain likes to focus on the negative, when that was just a blip.
Sigh, I may need to reconsider some stimulant #adhd medication, since my attention span these days is like a goldfish (and not in the positive Ted Lasso way).
Question for #ADHD and #AuDHD:
What books would you recommend to read about adhd?
I’m trying to make sense of some things, and would like to read more.
All my brain things blend together and hard to tell what is what. With signs like how teachers said I wasn’t reaching my potential because I was always daydreaming and never listening. And how I’ve gotten emails from my electric and health insurance companies threatening to shut it off because I forgot to pay the bill again.
One of my biggest struggles right now is managing my ever growing list of Shit To Do That Doesn't Have A Deadline. Or stuff that has a deadline of "by (some vague time that's further away than next week)", which is functionally the same thing
Do y'all have any better strategies for this? I just have a Todo notepad in my phone that becomes a black hole dumpster fire, and it's not sustainable.
@hazelweakly the thing that I've been working on that's worked best, tho not great, is a combination of the Eisenhower Matrix and the eat the frog method of prioritization.
I go thru my lists and tag everything based on whether it is urgent/important/both/neither and then based on that prioritization I pick one task and just focus on it until it's done, then add any new action items that were generated to the backlog, and repeat.
Nachdem ich mich jetzt nicht mehr vorm Fensterputzen drücken kann, kann ich mich jetzt vorm Optiker drücken bis mich die kleinen Kratzer auf der Brille in den Wahnsinn treiben.
Working at an agency is so hard for someone with #adhd, since the main product is actually sitting down and spending time concentrating and billing it to clients.
I had to pay the #adhd tax again today. This time it was a cancellation fee for a triple vet appointment that slipped my mind until 12 minutes after I would have needed to leave to make it on time.
I found myself looking through apps again, thinking maybe there's something to one of the plethora of apps designed "for" folks with ADHD? They look like they were made by the same people that told me I "just" need a diary.
I've used. So many apps. It doesn't matter the interface, or the cutesy idiom - eventually, I stop checking. I put all my tasks in, neatly organise and categorise them, then I go off to do something else - great intentions and all that 😅
Any #ADHD friends out there who know of anything that helps to solve real ADHD challenges? Some of mine that come to mind specifically when trying to plan tasks / do things:
I forget to check the app / todo list
I forget I'm supposed to check
More tasks go in than get ticked off, which is demotivating
Reminders at inoppertune times (focused on something else, not feeling the thing) get summarily dismissed never to be seen again
@loops@actuallyadhd the only thing I have found that works for me is having my calendar and todo list on both my lock screen and home screen. Three priority tasks each day that I tag so I don't get overwhelmed but add more on the good days. Only reminders for calender events as reminders for todos don't work for me
Trying to power through, hoping that if I forget I have #ADHD the symptoms and my limitations will disappear. What could go wrong... The things I would do to have a normal brain.
Today I went to a hardware store and bought a rubber mallet and used it to fix my car with a few good well placed whacks and then was proud of myself for doing something that required executive function when I'm out of my regular #ADHD meds.
I'm actually getting really excited to move to a new apartment. I'm using is as an excuse to reorganize and declutter. I'm sure the new apartment will get cluttered eventually but I am determined to give everything a place when we unpack and no #ADHD doom piles!
Having #adhd is deciding to research how to let go of the shame you've accrued since childhood & finally start building your self-esteem, but then getting sidetracked by the feeling of hunger as you realise you don't have any food left at home. Going to the grocery store is not an option, as that would involve getting dressed and stepping out of the house; therefore, the only viable option is to text your best friend "save me", watch YouTube nervously until you can't stand the rumbling in your stomach, go shopping, wonder why you were so adamantly against shopping when it was done in 20 minutes, feel excited about the fact that you have food now(noodles), and then repeat the whole debacle next week.
(The research was left as an open tab in your browser as a reminder for you to get back to, until 6 months later you decide having 896 open tabs is too cluttered, close them all, and by the end of the year realise that your insecure attachment style stems from an abundance of self-loathing and lack of confidence, the result of a lifetime of fuckups and minor mistakes being followed up by mocking remarks from teachers, family, and friends, until you are anxious at the prospect of making any action or decision, knowing the result. Remembering all of that, you follow the trail of clues until you realise that this is just the internalised voice of shame. Your interest piqued, you decide to research how to let go of this shame & finally start building up your self-esteem.)
#NicheSupportGroup idea: meeting for quiet people who were reprimanded a few hundred too many times for being "rude" as a child, and as a result are terrified of conversations.
