Hey Fedi friends! It's the end of the month again which means it's time for a new mutual aid request. (This ended up being a little longer than I expected but bare with me! CashApp & PayPal links at the end! :floof_Heart:)
To try and keep this short and since many of the folks who have known me or seen me around the Fediverse know or have an idea of what the current situation is like.
I'm a minor with no source of income outside of coding which does not bring nearly enough in for me to even buy lunch most months so I have to resort to mutual aids or theft (Which got me in a lot of legal trouble, but fuck the corporates.). I need at least enough fundings to support me (Age 16, turning 17 this year) and my younger sibling (age 15).
I am a high school student living in a crappy situation with divorced parents. Where one house, the main house, I am refused basic needs such as, but not limited to, food, water, hygiene, clothing, proper medical care, etc. While the other house, my mothers, is a hoarder mess with little to no food, and when there is non expired food that has not been gotten into by animals, months, mold, maggots, etc, it is often times one of the following: Chocolate, cookies, Twinkies, hostess foods, etc. My mother hoards much more than just garbage but indeed, animals also. (With over 70 animals in the house and dogs who are not potty trained along with more animals, outside of the house).
Neither houses include proper medical care. I have a chronic skin disease that causes me severe pain and if it gets bad enough, it becomes an open wound that tunnels often times on my chest or on my legs. My parents do not supply the proper medications I need for these, and when asked or mentioned needing the medications, I get told "Get a job". (Which I am also not allowed to have.)
I'm constantly at risk of being kicked out of the house at any time without warning, a couple of months ago I was locked out of the house in regards to being trans and using my chosen name tho thankfully this was after a school play and I had a safe place at the time.
CPS does not listen. The cops do not listen. I cannot speak up about any of these issues even to trusted adults as this causes more issues at home and gets CPS involved.
Cost breakdowns for the month! Any extra fundings will be put towards getting my parrot a new urn (His last one unfortunately broke).
MEDICATIONS: $50 (4x meds for chronic disease (3 prescription + 1 one reg), anxiety/insomnia meds, pain killers)
CAT FOOD: $20
TOTAL: $500
NOT URGENT BUT STILL NEEDED: I will be doing commissions in regards to funding for this stuff, it might take a little bit but I'll do it o7
URN REPLACEMENT: $160 (I know this is expensive but it was the cheapest urn I could find that was made with a decent quality that would work better for traveling with him, as this bird means a lot to me, even in death. If you've known or seen me around within my past year and a half ish on Fedi you'd know how much my beloved Leo was worth to me<3)
(We attempted to fix the urn but it didn't work very well as it proceeded to keep breaking and at this point it's cheaper just to replace it)
LAPTOP FIX: $20
(Keyboard had an incident where one of the keys broke and need to be replaced, this was a rough estimate on the price it should cost from a friend. - The laptop doesn't have a warranty 😹 but I need this for personal use + school + studies)
Wishing everyone a very happy Easter and Trans Day of Visibility 💙💖
We’re celebrating this very special occasion with a collection of trans pride creations by diverse artists from across the world celebrating Trans Visibility!
More men need to take active measures to not follow women tbh.
Like, my partner will cross the street and go out of his way if he's walking behind a woman, so that she doesn't feel threatened or bothered by his presence.
Today I was "followed" by a man in a parking lot. I know he wasn't following me, I knew it at the time as well, that he was just walking to his car the same as I was.. but it scared me. A lot.
I would have appreciated it if he crossed away from me. It would have been a great kindness.
Hi! I'm (probably) Ember (trying it out). I also go by Zemri.
#Agender. They/them and neutral terms only unless otherwise indicated. #masc leaning in physical presentation. Been on T for almost 5 months now. Mostly just goblin mode at all times.
I'm a currently unemployed data entry slob (still searching for work). I have three cats, two boys and a girl. I like silly computer games that most gamers wouldn't give the time of day, and #TTRPG. My vices are whiskey and cigarettes.
And I'm married (for sixteen years) to a brilliant, talented, funny, amazing #trans woman (@nerdybutcute) who is my entire world.
Which flavor of #neurodivergent is inability to feel belonging to any group? I think, I finally got why I don’t get that #gender thing. Basically, a gender is just another cohort, with some assumed properties. A group one feels belonging to. And I have never felt as a part of any group. I never fit in. Each cohort is supposed to have certain properties, and I just never have all. I just feel like impostor in any, including any gender/sexuality groups, including #agender#queer#nd#AuDHD
Divers ist fast nie die Selbstbezeichnung einer Einzelperson oder Gruppe.
Divers ersetzt weder Herr oder Frau noch ersetzt es er oder sie noch männlich oder weiblich.
Am besten verwendet ihr den Begriff im Alltagsumgang überhaupt nicht, außer es geht explizit um den amtlichen Geschlechtseintrag, oder eine Person möchte ihn ausdrücklich für sich verwenden.
Wenn ihr nicht wisst, wie eine Person angesprochen werden möchte, könnt ihr das mit "Hallo [Vorname]" oder "Guten Tag, [Vorname Nachname]" lösen. Den Rest regeln einfach "du" oder "Sie". "Divers" gehört da nicht hin.
Wenn eine Person nicht-binär bzw. agender ist, dann nennt diese Person nicht-binär oder agender, es sei denn, sie bezeichnet sich selbst ausdrücklich als divers.
Bitte weitersagen und/oder ergänzen oder kritisieren, wenn ihr mögt.
It's interesting watching men give opinions in comment threads here.
Men pmuch always state their opinion as immutable fact - "the thing is.." and "it's worth mentioning that..".
When people who aren't men SHARE their opinions here it's usually (?always) shared as an opinion - "I think that.." and "in my experience it.."
The other thing I see a lot is that when I counter with a stated opinion "actually, this is how it happens..", they get aggressive. My guess is that they are reacting to the dissonance they feel because I'm not performing feminine deference towards them in that moment.
Let us not romanticize coming out.
Let us not forget that it is a privilege.
Let us not forget the trans, gay, and queer folks who get disowned and kicked out for telling the world their truth.
Let us not forget.
I'm going to visit my parents today to have a family meeting sort-of-thing to discuss their minor meltdown about me coming out as non-binary.😰
We didn't set an agenda or anything so I'm going in blind. What should I make sure to talk about? Anyone have any similar experiences to share or advice? 🙂
Can people talking about the non-binary thing as being 'new' maybe consider that non-binary people have been around in Indigenous communities forever and try decolonising your concept of gender a little, thanks.
Why am I not out to my family? I know they'll accept me. I know they basically know already. So why can't I just be out?
I am out as queer in my attraction, but not my gender identity. I don't quite know what's stopping me. Maybe I'm afraid things will change. They already treat me how I want to be. I don't have it in me to explain my complex lack of gender. I don't even understand it myself.
Maybe its because I think they'll still silently not believe it. They'll say the right things but they'll still see me as a woman. And if I haven't come out, I don't have to confront the pain that they don't believe me. Currently they are just mistaken, but if I tell them, it becomes willful and more hurtful to me.
I think I also am waiting for something to shift so I can have a nice clean label. I feel like if I can't give them a simple label like non-binary, or trans man, that they'll believe me even less. I don't want to be humoured. I want to be actually seen and believed to be me. Most cis people don't really accept, "Im trans, I don't have a gender but it's complicated and depends, and I also don't know".
I am so so tired. Coming out to two family members feels so far down my list of priorities. I don't even have the energy to make myself food half the time. To brush my teeth and walk my dog. I am just surviving. My life is consumed by fatigue, so I just put off hard conversations that aren't urgent.