What some people don’t seem to be able to understand is that for the ones with executive disfunction number of steps matters a lot.
I just put away all my dried laundry aside of duvet cover.
Why? Because for all the other things it’s easy one-step task: grab all the knickers and shove them into the drawer, get the home clothes and put it into home clothes cube box(that cubed Ikea shelf is such a helper for people like me, I just have a cube for every thing).
But the linen shelf is at the top of the bathroom closet, and it’s almost full. So I need a stepladder to be able to put the duvet cover there(I can try to shove it there without, I kinda reach the shelf itself, but in its current state the cover is likely to fall from there, and probably with some other things, so that would upset me which I am not ready to deal with now).
But the stepladder is now occupied by my winter shoes which were drying there before I put them away for summer.
But to put them away I need to get two big boxes from under my bed, empty one by putting everything that is there into the other one, put all the shoes there, put the boxes back under the bad, ensure all the boxes there are arranged in a way that is allowing my cat to play in that labyrinth, and probably clean up after that as I suppose there’s going to be a few dust bunnies.
Gosh, I got tired by just typing all that.
Going through all those steps may bot take too much time(if I don’t get distracted by something, including the urge to sort everything perfectly), but the very thought of going through all those steps just discourages me so much that I can’t find energy to start. “It’s just one duvet cover!” - they say. “It’s a shitton of steps!” - I answer.
Well, the cover is drying in a way that obscures a view from my bed which irritates me enough to maybe develop enough anger to put it away in the weekend.
It is my very firm belief that some of the issues with #ExecutiveDysfunction stem from your brain not liking the way things are commonly meant to be done.
It is also my firm belief that it is possible to adapt the systems so they work for you instead of needing to adapt yourself to the systems (and often fail).
I want to make my case today about to-do lists.
To-do lists are just the way how you manage to get shit done, right? You put it on a list and work through it. Easy enough 😬
I tried to re-do my prescriptions for migraine and ADHD medications through pharmacy - and they ALL got declined. It took the whomever asshole looked at them over a WEEK to decline them.
These are medications I need to exist, and have been using for YEARS now. There should have not been a single issue in re-doing them.
I've essentially ran out, and now need to contact a doctor to get this done...who the fuck's idea is that??
The recording of the Writing with Executive Dysfunction workshop is available with corrected captions. The document that we drafted in it will be completed available next week on my substack.
Getting stoked for next week's Neurodivergent Burnout webinar, about writing with Executive Dysfunction!
It'll be 2023-12-05, 11:00am Eastern US time. #AcWriMoND
Here's @FractalEcho's announcement. (This is a manual boost particularly for folks disconnected from the Kolectiva instance):
> The next Neurodivergent Burnout webinar will be about writing with Executive Dysfunction. Tune in December 5th, 11am est. Register for more info: https://tinyurl.com/dysfunctionalwriting
> This session is going to be unique. I will walk you through my writing process while using my writing guide to write a writing guide luve on Zoom. We will incorporate attendee interactions, thoughts, and testimony. Come Write with Me!
The next Neurodivergent Burnout webinar will be about writing with Executive Dysfunction. Tune in December 5th, 11am est. Register for more info: https://tinyurl.com/dysfunctionalwriting
This session is going to be unique. I will walk you through my writing process while using my writing guide to write a writing guide luve on Zoom. We will incorporate attendee interactions, thoughts, and testimony. Come Write with Me!
Ok, this has to be the most 2023 thing ever—I just logged into Mastodon on my PC, replied to something, and then looked back down at my phone and liked something else on Mastodon. 🤦 #AbsentMinded? #ExecutiveDysfunction
Was it stupidity, denial or just obtuseness that made me not recognize #executivedysfunction for 50 years? Not even an "oh, it's that feeling again where I'll do anything I can to avoid this simple 5m task, maybe listening to music will help".
Or #RSD. Prooooobably most people aren't assuming that everyone not currently actively praising them is deeply angry at them for unspecified reasons.
Anyway, talk to your doctor and try some medication. It's pretty great.
If ONE MORE neurotypical person tells me to clean as I go, set alarms, and make lists, my head is going to explode. NO SUSAN, IT NEVER EVER OCCURRED TO ME TO WRITE A TO DO LIST OR SET A REMINDER ON MY PHONE. AND NO ONE HAS EVER SUGGESTED ANY OF THOSE THINGS TO ME BEFORE. Thank you for fixing my whole life with a few simple suggestions. (I should probably go watch TV now and stop trying to have conversations.) #neurodivergent#thestruggleisreal#executivedysfunction
Yesterday's theme was #executivedysfunction . I didn't get anything significant done at work, paralysed by potential maintenance nightmares of the smallest of changes, and crushed between the inertia of older code styles and the weight of duty to the new, current way. I could barely pick a soundtrack, and it continued after work when trying to find something, anything that would engage and relax me, even for a mere 20 minutes.
I was hoping today would be better, but it's not looking good.
Currently dipping my toes into a lot of things I have little to no experience in. Like developing a little web app for helping people figure out possible reasons why they're stuck. Next up: figuring out how to get this online.
Hi everyone, would you be so kind and share some things that help you move forward if you feel stuck? It could be an idea, an app, an image, a song, an action or whatever else gets you moving.
Don't hesitate to share things that seem too easy or trivial to you. They might be the biggest aha-moment for someone else.
If you find this helpful, please consider boosting for wider reach.
As someone with #ADHD-related #ExecutiveDysfunction, I have to say that getting an #Instantpot has been a bit of a gamechanger. Wonderful to spend 5-10 minutes just throwing everything in a pot and then forgetting about it for an hour while it cooks and cools down.
@writers @audhd@actuallyautistic
When you’re an independent author, you are your own marketing team! And my marketing team forgot to post my weekly Late-Idenified #AuDHD: A Starter Workbook post.