Lemme get this straight, #BetterHelp helped themselves to $80 out of my account every month for several months while I dealt with undiagnosed #ADHD with no help from them (kinda hard to get treatment when you have to initiate all of the communication and you have raging ADHD). The US FTC sued them and all I get back is $9.70?
Good grief.
OH SNAP, they got sued for selling customer's data TO FACEBOOK. WOW! WHAT A PARAGON OF VIRTUE.
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@beardedtechguy Vivaldi has done a spectacular job just locking me into their browser. I use it for so much I don't even know where I'd begin with a different one. Another example is the Panel. As an admin of an instance, I spend a LOT of time here on Mastodon, and I'm constantly looking stuff up and taking notes. Something that I'm sure has been there forever and I never noticed is the ability to drag text from the active tab to a panel. Works AMAZINGLY for notes and translating.
@nekohayo Polls are hard. I choose "It would be a serious issue for me" but I think it's a wording that's a bit stronger than I'd choose myself. More like "It would be a real issue for me".
What would happen is that I would constantly lose focus as that URL changed which would trigger me and I'd get angry and annoyed. 😣
@mattiasb Yeah, I think using the world "real" would have caused more confusion than "serious", as anything can be said to be "real" by someone who perceives something, while "serious" is meant to clearly differentiate between an annoyance (still "real") vs something that "disrupts with consequences" levels of severity. i.e. Would it be considered harmful, or annoying, or not at all.
The characters (& choices) limit in polls makes it a bit hard to write things, but I think it's pretty balanced.
@sarajw That's the one I'm using, too. But under notifications, there wasn't an indication it was a response. I think because my name was at the end instead of beginning? I dunno. Maybe I'm just an idiot LOL
Someone needs to write an #ADHD videogame called "Dopamine Farming" where you have a stable job and a great life and all of a sudden DONT care about anything in the world and start planning things around the dopamine they will produce so you can get through the day, like, "Time for a haircut! I don't need one that badly, but that's fifteen dopamine points, so I'll take it!"
I wanted to bake something today because the weather was cool, but I couldn't remember the recipe, so I had to look it up, but the recipe book was packed, so I had to move a bunch of boxes to get to it, but while they were out of the way I decided to put the kitchen rug down, then as long as I was at it I unpacked some dishes, then I unpacked my cookbooks then decided to put them on the tea cart, then put every else back nicely & now the kitchen looks better but I'm too tired to bake. #ADHD
@samhainnight Old Story: Man goes into kitchen gets a glass of water. Goes back to front room to watch TV.
Woman goes into kitchen to get a drink of water, sees a mess on the counter top, wipes it down, clears a few dishes from the sink to the dishwasher, feeds the cat, mops the floor… then remembers to get a drink of water. Decides to make it vodka.
@cferdinandi Good for you for quitting. For me, the prospect of finding a new job is such a huge Wall of Awful that I'm apt to stay in a toxic work environment until something explodes.
I know people with estrogen have said their ADHD gets worse during perimenopause/menopause, but I'm wondering if people with testosterone 50+ also notice their Autism/ADHD symptoms getting worse. Especially more "inattentive"/stuck in their thoughts.
I feel like we really need more research on all of this.
@KitMuse@actuallyautistic@neurodiversity person with mostly estrogen here (I think, anyway): my neurodivergent stuff did not get worse with changes. I had almost zero side effects of peri/meno except weight gain though. No hot flashes or other disturbances.
estrogen drops during perimenopause & i've gone from basically none to too much recently. I don't think i'm any more or less stuck in my thoughts than before hormones.
My autism symptoms do feel worse BUT I've also been doing a lot of work unmasking work, & listening to 🧠's needs, & feeling / being percieved as "more autistic" is normal then.
@btaroli@actuallyautistic I'm not sure our society encourages that, specifically, so much as it's been propagated that hard work is how you move up the hierarchy (earn money, be competitive), while not tuning into the gratis labor that parents have to do.
Back in the day, the economic model of traditional family labelled parenting a FT job, and good jobs paid for a whole family, or so the story went. It's now an antiquated model, but you can still see it on your tax forms.
@btaroli@actuallyautistic Set your boundaries ahead of time if at all possible. There are also some really great tips and stories on r/SingleParents.
It's hard. Take care of your health, though, because this moment of life will pass more quickly than you can imagine, and one notable thing you'll have to show for it is the state of your body.
Its pretty much weekly, now.
I arrive at the end of every week not remembering my own identity or why I even wake up in the morning, but just wanting to escape reality.
It's so bad this week that I literally thought yesterday was saturday.
I had a Rockstar energy drink, coffee, and a small Red Bull can, and it made me so sleepy I passed out for 14 minutes and woke up feeling like I slept an hour.
Energy drinks are supposed to make me functional, not take a nap after 240mg energy drink caffeine + whatever 4oz coffee is.
So happy I took the time to learn #Dataview. It's going to be revolutionary for my vault. It'll help me create main topic pages to keep track of my notes. I used to manually link every note to a "MOC" but I kept forgetting and found it tedious. This is going to be a "leave it and let grow" thing, and it suits my #ADHD brain immensely lol.
And how great it is that the #Obsidian anticipated our annoyance with YAML and come up with the properties feature? Genius.
The Norway #ADHD group on FB strikes me as people who are always looking for stuff. Drugs, treatment, easy ways out. They're not looking for key solutions, such as collaboration. I'm also not seeing much interest in a weekly ADHD conference call. Some of the paradox is that you're short-sighted, and thus unable to work with people on the long term.
Totally agreed. What I loved about the youtube ADHD "community" was the realistic depictions of what ADHD is actually like, and techniques for overcoming it, not mere recommendations for drugs.
It's a bummer that the community you found isn't more healthy.
Trying something new. The #ADHD neurologist (has it and it's her specialty) I follow on IG says that if you want to do stuff, don't sit down because transitions are hard. So, after walkies, I went straight to my sewing room. I find this hilarious. This is now known as sneaking up on my brain😂
@kcarruthers I asked one of my yoga teacher program teachers, who is ADHD, how to do my practice every day (it went from a hyperfixation to daily chore when it became homework) how to do my homework practice every day and she told me to lie in bed and watch the video. Most times, you will find yourself doing by the end. Again, trick the brain.😂
If I get my Adderall through mail service instead of the local pharmacy it saves me $25 per month. BUT they won't fill it until I run out & processing & shipping is slow unless you pay extra (even then it is not next day) so I end up being out of it for a week+. Because it is a controlled substance it also requires a signature so unless I happen to be home when the no tracking package comes I have to drive further than my pharmacy to pick it up. American healthcare can just fuck right off. #adhd
I'm behind on work. I'm behind on house stuff. I haven't had the motivation to cook healthy meals or work out (also its been hot). I haven't had motivation to do most of my hobbies. I am trying to save and trying to pay down debt. I am trying to do all the things that make me a good responsible adult just to fail again because the War on Drugs criminalizes my medication and Big Pharma needs more profit for shareholders. If I didn't have cats I would probably just give up. #adhd#capitalismsucks
@instantiatethis recent adhd diagnosis myself. I can’t even imagine having to go through this - I forgot my meds once and it derailed everything for a week. 💜
@nflamel Right? It just hits on SO MANY THINGS in a scant 6 minutes.
Disappointment from authority figures. Comments from peers. Internalized feelings of failure. Finding your place of belonging and that thing you're good at. Meeting people who "get" you and accept you as you are.
I fucking love Bluey, but this episode is just one of the best, hands down.
My husband is presenting in an all-day #ADHD virtual conference with other experts in the field, including Dr. Edward Hallowell, for an #ADD/ADHD audience.
He put his slide deck on #Google Slides as required. Then technical glitches occurred (slides weren’t fully loading) during the test run. The IT person asked him if he was on a Mac (he is). According to the IT person, they have trouble with Mac users being able to run slideshows when there are multiple presenters.
and apparently my #Adderall prescription is “delayed“. don’t know why, they didn’t answer the phone and I’m at work... not able to just come running. but maybe I have to. besides the #ADHD, that is the medication keeping me upright and semi-functional while #psychiatrist was eliminating the supplements and medications that make me sleep. Fml.
Everytime I stand in front of the door and frantically search for the keys in my bag, all that #anxiety makes me panic, pushes me to the verge of tears - even though it is not such a big deal because I’m not in a hurry and if anything, the concierge has a spare pair.
So, naturally, my #autistic brain tries to compensate for a possible #ADHD fail - and every time I walk home, I feel almost unbeatable urge to get my keys out of my bag to my hand when I am still like 200 meters from home.
I suppose, it’s the same overcompensation mechanism that makes me come to airport at least two hours before the departure and to a train station at least an hour before, buy spares of essentials each time a bottle starts feeling not full, or always have a stocked pantry(though there may be multiple of ones and none of others as I always forget to check what I have before going to the store)
Is this exaggerated(to the point of creating problems) ‘better safe than sorry’ something #AuDHD people are more prone to? Do you guys also do that? @actuallyautistic
I can definitely relate, and can also see this in my partner. (I’m happy to get to the airport at the recommended time, early but not stupidly do, but he’d rather get there at least an hour earlier again.)
