"There’s a strong idea sitting in my heart that if I say ‘no’ to enough offers then one day I’ll have saved up the points to ask for something that matters. If I avoid being any trouble to someone today then tomorrow, when I really need them, they’ll be there for me. "
We Do
Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love
In We Do, psychotherapist Stan Tatkin provides a groundbreaking system for helping couples create meaningful, enduring relationships. According to Tatkin, all couples—once major deal-breakers are out of the way—have the potential for long-term relationship success. But relationships don't thrive for the reasons we think they do, such as shared values or good communication.
OKCupid always asks this question "Is #jealousy in a #relationship healthy?" and after 15 years (😂) of thinking about it, I think I have an answer. Yes, a little bit is actually a good thing, but not too much. A little bit keeps the other person on their toes, but too much means that either someone is crossing boundaries or someone has absurd boundaries (i.e. anxiety.)
Relationship Sanity: Creating and Maintaining Healthy Relationships
People in resilient relationships are co-owners, experience reciprocity, and are better prepared to meet challenges authentically and effectively. In this sequel to the best-selling Irrelationship, the authors use examples from their clinical practice to review the concept of irrelationship
Shadow Boxing Explained: A Complete Guide
Are you curious about what shadow boxing is and why it's a popular training technique among boxers? In this guide, we'll delve into the meaning and benefits of shadow boxing, as well as how to get started and its effectiveness as a workout.
Just finished "Why Men Love Bitches" by Sherry Argov.
I'm not the target audience but I found this book funny and fascinating. Most of it applies to everyone anyway.
I think too many of us have problems with being too nice and we suffer as a result. When it comes to #relationships I think we could all do a lot more to make each other earn each other.
Anyway, the book has a clear message of self-respect, respecting ones time and energy and having one's own life. #bookstodon#books
"Many women and men begin new relationships never dreaming they could later be enmeshed in a cycle of intimate partner violence.
Now, a new study finds there are early behavioral warning signs from a partner that suggest the risk for violence is there. And the more signs a person sees in the partner, the higher the potential risk."
Impact of social media and instant messaging apps on interpersonal relationships
My Perspective
Instant messaging apps like WhatsApp, Telegram Messenger, Signal Messenger etc. (primarily WhatsApp in India) do boost one to one connectivity among friends, acquaintances and family members. It also helps improve communication related to mostly once in a while transactional and sometimes friendly topics like family matters, medical, school and college education, fun side of personal life through photos and videos. Jokes and memes, through forwards, add spices to one to one communication. Group chats and social media like Facebook and Twitter strongly influences one to one communication through instant messengers.
There is another side of instant messaging i.e. the not so nice aspects. Dopamine is a brain chemical that plays a vital role in mood regulation of human beings. It seems that entire society is driven by the feel good factor due to constant availability of cheap dopamine through group chats and social media. Unless it is transactional or related to business, most one to one chats survive as long as the recipients gets positive social stimulus and dopamine influx. It doesn’t matter if something is good or healthy for us, as long as we get that quick dopamine fix.
From my experience of chatting since the days of Yahoo! Chat, I see that loss of reward stimuli and dopamine activity lead to one or both the recipients disengage at the slightest pretext. Read receipts, online status, last seen status etc. further add to anxiety and feeling unimportant or betrayed. There is lack of patience and empathy. Sharing contrarian or critical views, on matters connected to society and politics, often cause functional impairment and getting ignored or blocked.
WOMEN AT FAULT FOR POLITICAL DIVIDE: MARRY A MAGA MAN!
Ridiculous concern trolling by The Washington Post's editors, too cowardly to put a byline for the author, really showcases how #incel grievance has become normalized.
They argue *someone will have to compromise *(meaning women) or else marriage rates will tumble. I think women may have already found their own alternative.🤔
has anyone #read any good #books / articles on Ada Lovelace and Charles Babbage's relationship? I see snips and bits about it here and there but I'd like to find something that does a deep dive.
The Life We're Looking For: Reclaiming Relationship in a Technological World
A deeply reflective primer on creating meaningful connections, rebuilding abundant communities, and living in a way that engages our full humanity in an age of unprecedented anxiety and loneliness—from the author of The Tech-Wise Family.
Distance works in time as well as space. Frequency of contact indicates closeness, so contacting someone often can be a transgression. Rather than 'getting to know you better,' they can maintain the same distance as the circumstances when you first met. Thus, many foreigners say they can't make friends with Japanese.
Much use of silence. Large private self vs. small public self. The same act, such as posting one's photo & real name online, falls into the public #self of Westerners but the private self of Japanese.
Most Japanese are undemonstrative of emotions & affection. Standing close or touching them can easily be taken as a sexual or presumptuous invasion of their private realm.
Japanese feel personal space palpably. They make a cutting #gesture when passing someone closely.
"Countries are listening" because the #USA has demonstrated, accelerating since 2001, that it is the premiere wearer of #ClownPants on the #international stage.
#Bush Jr. made the USA a laughingstock. #Trump made the world understand that the USA WILL reverse itself on any and all #relationships and #obligations at the drop of a hat.
So people are looking for a reliable #alternative. Reliably #evil is better than #incoherent swings between benevolence and malevolence.
With Sprinkles on Top offers a positive and empowering resource for talking about and working through sexual differences. With empathy and understanding, Dr. Goerlich addresses hopes and fears on both sides of a desire divide and provides shame-free guidance for relationships of different shapes and orientations.
Many believe healing will help them “handle” or “tolerate”their abusive relationships. They believe it will enable them to go back and help or change their abusers. However, it’s after healing that your tolerance for abuse diminishes. You see that you are worthy of better and realize you do not deserve maltreatment from anyone, especially those who are supposed to love and care for you. #SelfLove#SelfCare#Healing#Peace#Abuse#EmotionalAbuse#BlackMastodon#Anxiety#Depression#Relationships